Hello docs. I am in 12th now. I am in big trouble. Please help me. There is something psychological issue with me. I feel very guilty even I haven't done anything. My mood changes every second of my life. I unable to do something actively. I can not concentrate on studies. I can not give priority to work and feel guilty. I also fear while speaking with friends and family that if I had speak something wrong. My physical fitness is also low. Actually I had a girlfriend. But we are not together now. She have stopped away. So I am unable to deal with girls also. I fear to speak same reason of above. What should I do? Please help me out here.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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At this age there is concern with some of these developments and you must take it serious enough to seek some professional help immediately. You are in the fag-end of your adolescence: During this time there will be a spurt in the production of the male sex hormone, testosterone, which has a duration of two years. Due to this chemical alone there are three identified features that present itself over which you have no control: you will be sexually active, aggressive and rebellious, and you will have acne and pimple problems. Then if you have unresolved childhood issues, they will compound the situation and fuel your uncontrolled behavior. Please remember that you yourself may not be aware of all this. At this time you will imagine that your mind is not stable because this is an age of conflict, confusion and a lot of stress peculiar to your age. To expect peace during this time is a real difficult ask. You should meet with a counselor to help you. You can channelize your energy to get involved in sports and games regularly. Watch the influence of your peer group because their influence will be irresistible. You are establishing yourself among your peers, and you will try to be fashionable in every way possible. What is outrageous to others is very much in, with youngsters today. You will be seeking a lot of attention from your friends and some of them think that they have to be horrendously different for social acceptance and you will need to join them for their acceptance more than your parents’ acceptance of you. I recommend that you go for career counseling also and determine that your aptitude for academic pursuits are in line with your skills. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that you and the family go for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week. 

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Dr. Sajeev KumarGeneral Physician32yrs exp

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You have anxiety and depression and you need to use willpower to study and forget all other things. Do meditation for mind control. Or else you have to take medicines. 

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