Hi I am 29 years old lady married Nd have 1 years 6 months baby. I depressed frequently without any reason feel lonely feel insecure so I met a psychiatrist who council me Nd give lamitor od 50 Nd rivotril. I have many prob since childhood it was nt so comfortable for me my parents wasn't good as well Nd I found my love Joydeep I married him but after few years I realised it was my mistake I choose wrong person he is working in USA now, I did nt want to be a mother but my husband did he forced me to be a mother of his son I agreed coz I love him I do not say he doesn't not love me but I can not feel him now I think whatever he does for me it's fake now I'm going through a very bad situation. So my question is wht should I do if I join somewhere for job purpose should I shall be happy or I think about divorce which makes me happy coz I'm nt happy d way I'm now I can not handle all those responsibilities which I did not want to please suggest me the way. Thanking you
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Hi lybrate-user! This is the crucial time definitely you will feel depressed, it is usual at least for 1 month to 3 years mother of their child, you will become normal aft�r your baby turns 3. Look you are really lucky to have a boy child, see how cute is his smile, he really wants his mother so much, why you want your depression to affect him, try and be a real affectionate mother, start to become more attached to your son, he will definitely give you the care, love and support till the end, start speaking to him whether he understands or not, he thinks his beautiful caring mother will never let him alone, he needs your love so much, don't ever hurt him, he is so young and soft, he loves you lot, admired you, your actions and everything, he things you are everything. Do control your anger as much as you can. One thing I wanted to remind you, your husband really loves you, he is occupied with work maybe that is the reason he is not showing attention, only real husband will want their wife to be the mother of their child, understand this logic, if he wants to cheat you or if he is not loyal enough he would have never want you to be mother of his child, he wants to lead a single family life, try to turn your attention concentrating on your cute little son, your husband will start loving you when your son starts walking both will start loving each other, you will both share many responsibilities. You need to wait till your son starts making naughty things, then your hubby will start loving you more. You can call me or mail me whenever you want my help to make you stronger enough to lead an happy life for you and your family. Now do not search job, go for job once your little son turns 4 okay. Because you need to stay with your son, watch lovable moments, which are precious enough nothing cannot be so worth, it will never come back in life. Take care. Be happy, make yourself happy, play with your baby, smile when your baby smile at you because your baby wants you to be happy. Sacrificing is the greatest one in life, that to if it comes to mother, what you give, definitely you will get back always. With regards,
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Hi thanks for the query ,through your query i can understand that upto now you spent many years of your life devoted to others whether your parent or your husband but now its the time you should think of yourself only.Give some time to yourself ,take break from all this,make some good friends,share your feelings with someone,join any hobby class, make some trip with friends,in short do what ever makes you happy after this break you will be able to take correct decission .Lets come to your problem now,regarding your job-YES you can join any job ,it will help to interact with different peoples,and you will not get the free time to think on all this,and your second concern--you can share your feeling with your husband and also ask his opinion and effort should be from both ends to make the situation normal,and if still situation remains the same then you can think for some hard step.But make some effort and take some step to make the situation normal.when there is a will there is a way.take care.
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You have to accept the reality of life and he is working for you and family. If you can join him do that . Anyway you can go for job which will be a distraction from worries and you also do meditation and yoga GO for counselling again before a decision is taken . Divorce is not the answer to your problem which need to be tackled as I told
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