My fiance is having a best friend and he proposed her in December 2014 she had recently separated from her boyfriend. Both my fiance and that girl are school friends. She initially said yes and said he would be perfect for her. But later in Feb 2015 she said she is not getting feelings for him and she was in love with someone else. He insisted that she should take time she behaved rudely with him but he waited and said take your time. This continued till December 2105 then he accepted her as friend he continues to be her best friend. She behaves very rudely sometimes with him and he even cries for her. But still he thinks she is her best friend and he will take care of her. Then in Feb 2016 family introduced me to him and we said yes to each other after 2-3 meeting he told me about his past and he said she is still her best friend because she is very nice girl. He was happy that he has me and her in his life two angels in his life. Later on I found that he gets upset if she says something to him and he cries and he fears that she may leave if he will something to her he always pleases her and gift her to make her remember him. He said to me she is important in my life. He loves me I can see that but he sometimes behave rudely with me but he never behaves in that way with her. I told him that she is important in her life more than me but he said he loves me more than her. I told him that you won't want to accept the truth. He loves me he cares for me whenever he behaves rudely he says sorry. But I don't know what is happening with him and it will be going to difficult after marriage and I accepted their relation because I know he wants both in her life but sometimes I feel it is going to change my nature after marriage. I told him to consult a psychiatrist. He said he needs no psychiatrist and said no one cares for his feelings.
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A friend is one who gives care by showing positive self regard as well as gives the needed independence. Friendship never shows pressure or demands anything or neither it makes any relationship or persons in it feel uncomfortable about it. Once it is between opposite sex there lies some problems depending upon which level you keep that relationship. If a person holds some feelings in his or her heart it 'll be difficult to move ahead in life. If you feel that the relationship is going to change you or going to hurt you, instead of struggling inside tell your fiancee about it openly.
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Dear Lybrate user thanks for the query ,Its good that both of you love and understand each other, its obvious that your fiance have soft feeling for that girl and its more than normal friendship, you must talk to your fiance about this matter ,you should give him some space and time on the other hand you should also consider the bonding between them otherwise it can be problem for you in future. There should be balance in every relation ,if at any time again that girl will say yes to your fiance then? Just consider on all points before marriage .if you need my help you can contact me .take care.
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