I just need to find the right girl and marry. Still I am looking for the right one but not yet to find. The girls whom I contacted and approached have their own unresolved stories .Even though I didn't expect the perfect match but still I need someone which I can even compromise with her flaws. The other thing is I feel depressed whenever people's reaptedly asked me to Marry. Of course I am 32 now which I desperately need to marry. But am still trying to get the good one. Previously I was in relation ship for about two years but failed which I strongly believe that I didn't contribute that much for the break up. So whenever I sit alone I feel bad about the previous one and get offended .but no matter what I am struggling to get some one and forget all the past. So what do you advise me? Thank you very much.

Dr. Dolly AnadkatPsychologist10yrs exp

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I could imagine your frustration around the marriage issue. Especially now that you do want to merry and people without understanding your dilemma and helplessness asking you and even advising you. However, finding someone so that you could decide to spend rest of your life togather is not as simple. Every life has a story and you are right no one is perfect. Our life rather is a journey to attain perfection! being said that, in relationship it is always two individuals. And what ever happens for goos or bad - you could hardly blame only one person. In my modest opinion you need to talk to someone like a counselor or psychologist and work on clerifying your expectations about your future partner. Getting married is only a first step in working towards making your marriage work, and grow and you spend rest of your life happily ever after. If you really want to take this opportunity to start taking life seriously and working towards taking charge of your life and not just be someone who sees things as an outsider as life throws curve balls and then regret. Please don't take things personally. You really need to talk things out with someone who can help you clerify your goal and help you chart action steps towards happy, successful and fulfilled life. Let me know if I can help you in any way. Hope this helps wishing you very best. 

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