I am a goal oriented person, I don't want to waste my time in any manner. Basically I am a shy type guy, didn't make eye contact with girls. I like to chat through phone with girls, but after 5 days I am tired of chatting. Is that normal? I want to be more confident, develop rapport, social communication. What to do?
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Not at all. When you are talking to a member of the opposite sex, in particular, it should excite you enough to want to go on and on! So your shyness may be acting up while conversing with them that you find it stressful and want to quit. You must meet with a counselor and find out the cause of your social backwardness. You have a problem of self-acceptance, and if I may venture to say may be a rejection issue. This latter may have happened due to an actual rejection which you may have experienced very early in your life. The solution to this is a matter of genuine self-acceptance or self-love. I am not talking about narcissism: this is a genuine love of yourself. It is not based on your appearance alone. You must work on developing yourself in five areas: the physical fitness, emotional fitness, intellectual fitness, social fitness and spiritual fitness. I would also suggest you attend a good personality development program, a speech training course (I suggest the Toastmasters Club), a conversation and elocution course, and to do a personal grooming course too. Education is very good to boost self-confidence, and together with that if you develop socializing skills, you will make it big. Meet with a counselor and ask to be trained in handling emotions, and that will just take you places. Read a lot and meet lots of people, even if you feel too conscious: in time you will get out of this backwardness very well. Do physical fitness exercises regularly. Ultimately, if you believe in God, you will know that you are so precious to Him that no one else’s opinion or acceptance is as important as His. Your life will change phenomenally!
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be happy with ur personality, ur present behavior seems fine, if u suspect any problems get a personality evaluation done
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Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of Crab apple.+ 3 drops of Mimulus + 3 drops of Aspen Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach. If problem continues consult me online.
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