Hello Doctor, I am married for past 11 yrs, we had love marriage though my husbands parents were not happy with and trouble some but my husband and wife were happy but from past 3 to 4 years our relationship is ruining My husband lost all his financial gains and got cheated in business so I work in a pvt firm due to this he has started drinking heavily and abuses me speaks slang language to me and my kids, He was a very responsible and hardworking person earlier but now he has no interest to go for job nor has interest in family he has only interest in drinking and quarreling with me and he also simply suspects me on my character I am sure he is depressed due to his business loss but I have tried a lot to understand him and helped him to come out of that but he does not listen to me or anybody who tells him good Please guide me what to do with him and get him back out of this because he was a very wonderful human being loving an caring husband son and father, Please advise.
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Hi, hope your married life was good until your husband's business affected financially. First of all console him for now, do not hurt, try to take care of your husband and children, try to manage financially, cutting down unnecessary expenses. Do not allow quarrelling. Try to call husband's parents and talk to them about this issue personally, ask them if they could help you to bring back your husband to normal living, by emotionally supporting and loving him. First try to praise him always, by mentioning except drinking. Find out whom he likes the most. Let me know, so that I can help you and your husband to lead an happy life. What is his age, try to stop him by diverting to go somewhere else when are well aware that he is about to drink, invite someone closer to him for a treat at home, so that he will not be able to drink. Let me know after a week about the status. Concentrate on your job, children, ignore his slang words, console him through lovable words, expressions. Let me know about the status after a week. Will guide you further. Do not worry. Well wishes, psy. Msv.
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He lost in financial status for that reason he become hopeless and escapist. Better to take the help of your elders. Or his friends. Understand the situation properly. If not possible. It is better to take him psychiatrist. Along with psychiatric medicine it is better to consult psychologist for psychological counselling. You know he is very good person. Because of his mental condition. He disturbed and suspect to you. In this stage you do not develop negative thoughts. Understand his mental status is not good. If he reject the medicine then consult psychologist. It is not done only by you. Better to take his or your elders help. It is always best. Or request him or talk like a friend when he is good mood. If he scolds you do not bother wait for right time. You have chance to win one day. Upto that wait. God will helps to you. Do not develop depression status. Remaining time you better to develop a very good friendly relations in office environment. Ok all the best.
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