I have been very stressed out with work lately. Because of that I haven't been able to have a close time with my wife and we have started developing a lot of friction due to not having sex. Whenever we are close I've got this weird mental block in my head that stops me from initiating it. Furthermore even with such a long gap, my wife wants me to try new ways of doing it. This makes me feel more awkward since I was only comfortable doing it in the usual way which she says doesn't satisfy her. Very perplexed on what to do.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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There is nothing perplexing about the situation: you clearly indicate that the stress at work is the cause. You can address that by visiting a counselor and when that is sorted out, life will be a lot better at home. If your wife is not working, then it will be a great need for her being at home and waiting for your arrival and for some pleasure too. If you are not able to satiate her, naturally there will much friction. If stress is the cause, meeting a counselor must and will change this situation. However, if that is not the reason, then you need to explore other factors with the counselor or a sexologist. You need to be aware that there must be innovation in the performance of sex and the repeated and monotonous attempt at a standardized approach will put your wife off. A sexologist will guide you on this and your bedroom life will stand to improve considerably and so will your marital life. 

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