How to increase confidence level? My confidence level is to low to do any work like talking to ladies, while giving lecture. How to come out this problem?
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One powerful way to build confidence is by practicing self-compassion. ?Self-compassion means we have our own best interests at heart,? Welford said. ?We learn to support ourselves in the same way that we would support a friend or relative.? But this might sound utterly impossible to you, especially if you?re more used to beating yourself up. Many of us treat ourselves like the enemy. We regularly judge, criticize and condemn ourselves. Fortunately, self-compassion can be learned. Here?s how. Self-Compassionate Techniques There are many exercises for practicing self-compassion. ?We are all different and what is important is to find something that works for you,? Welford said. Here are several techniques to try. 1. Write a compassionate letter to yourself. When doing this exercise, Welford shares several guidelines in her book, including: Validate your feelings and the reasons you?re struggling; remember that millions of people struggle with their self-confidence; remember that everyone struggles, in general (it simply means being human); and try to be understanding, accepting and nonjudgmental. Write a supportive letter to yourself from the perspective of a compassionate person (someone who has your best interests and well-being at heart). You can start the letter with this sentence: ?I am sorry that you are having a difficult time at the moment and are struggling to build your self-confidence.? Another option is to ?write a letter to yourself from an older, wiser, compassionate you. What would you say to yourself now, and what would a compassionate future look like?? Welford writes. 2. Focus on your well-being. For Welford this exercise is most helpful. First, she engages in ?soothing breathing,? an exercise that ?aims to bring calmness and a sense of inner warmth and well-being to the mind and body.? According to Welford, it involves: finding a place that?s distraction-free; sitting in a relaxed ?yet alert posture;? and closing your eyes or lowering your gaze. ?Rather than counting your inhalations and exhalations, let your body find a breathing rhythm that is soothing for it.? When your mind naturally wanders, gently bring it back to your practice. Then Welford asks herself: ?What can I do for myself today that will make tomorrow a better day?? For instance, instead of mindlessly watching TV, she might go for a walk or call a friend. 3. Take action. As you build your self-confidence, what are your goals? What would you like to work on? Welford has worked with individuals who?ve set such goals as: meeting new people, speaking in public, asking for help, stopping needless apologizing, expressing their emotions to others and saying yes (or no). Once you have your goals, break them down into small, specific steps in increasing difficulty. Next, brainstorm how you can prepare for the situation, such as practicing soothing breathing and writing a compassionate letter to yourself; the obstacles that might come up; and how you?ll navigate those obstacles.
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