2 months ago I broke up. Due to this all my friend who are his friend also stop talking to me. Even I didn't tried to talk with them. But till today I cry daily because I miss them so much. How they can just leave me, I was also their friend. But they choose him over me. I know I shouldn't care for them but I do and do a lot. I just can't take it anymore. They even don't wished me on my birthday. I try to be normal, starts laughing more than before, take care of my look more but inside I am becoming weak more. This me is just a illusion for other to show them I am happy but inside I am broke. I want them back. Among all of them there was a boy who was my first male friend in my college, I miss him the most and basically cry only for him now. Whenever I see him tears comes because he was the closest to my heart but he doesn't take a second to just eliminate me from his life. I though we can be friends for life but he just left me all alone. I don't know what to do. I just can't concentrate anywhere. Due to all this my health has gone down, my eyesight has also weakened, my eyes hurts a lot. I always remember those past day, all those masti, travelling, celebrations. I just want to live in my present and snap out of my past. Does I am going in depression?

Ms. Sukanya BiswasPsychologist5yrs exp

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You should always remember is that people come into your life for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime. If you keep this in mind, you will not worry yourself sick, trying to figure out why a friend suddenly stopped talking to you. Everyone loves being liked and accepted, let?s face it, we thrive on it. But sometimes, you will not have or keep those people in your life, no matter what you do. Sometimes it?s best to let them go. Whenever someone stops talking to you, you should never blame yourself for that person cutting ties with you. Don?t worry yourself sick over something that was out of your control. Learn from the experience and move on. If you have experienced this, which I?m sure everyone has, there are some things you should do to make sure that you don?t get sick over this. These things have worked for me and I?m sure they will work for you. What you should do. 1. Write a letter to the person ? Writing a letter is a good way to add closure to the situation. There is no need for you to mail or email the letter. Read the letter out loud and then tear it up and throw it away. Disposing of the letting helps you close that chapter in your life. 2. Keep your mind occupied ? Don?t keep asking yourself why, why, why, because you will never know the answer. Read a book, magazine, watch a movie, or a little television to help you with the constant questions to yourself. 3. Meditate ? Take a few minutes, sit quietly and meditate or pray. While you are sitting quietly focus on your breathing and think happy and positive thoughts. You will soon stop focusing on the negative and see the positive reasons why your friend stop talking to you. 4. Exercise ? Exercising takes your mind off your situation. You are more focused on getting your body in shape and working up a sweat, than sitting around worrying about why a friend dumped you. 5. Talk to other family and friends ? Talking to others will help you stop thinking about why a friend suddenly cut ties with you. You will laugh and have a good time, so much so that you will forget about yourself. 6. Take up a hobby ? Do you have a hobby? If you love gardening, writing, sewing, cooking, etc. You should focus on learning all you can about your hobby. Working on your hobby will help you forget your worries. All the very best.  

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