I am a 27 years old lady. Doing job in bank in a good designation. I had a relationship with my college over one and half year. We involved in physical relation. He proposed me for marriage. Now he is telling that due to his family he can't marry me, but he will remain my friend and support. Now i'm feeling bad. I love him. And also I live only with my father. My mother lives separately. So I cannot share my feelings with any one. I dreamed a lot about marrying him. Now what should I do?
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You must be feeling devastated over how your colleague changed the relationship status. It's important to understand what does" remain friends and support" entails. He may have his own reasons to not marry you but not letting you know what the reasons are and conveniently shifting gears should make you think. Be wise and consider for yourself if you wish to remain at his disposal or decide for yourself. Yes indeed it will be difficult to let go and move on as so much of emotional attachment has happened but clinging to this relationship will yield nothing. Not being able to share your pain could also be making you feel unsupported and lonely, increasing your chances of leaning onto your colleague's mercy. Don't lose heart, be your own biggest support system, spend time over grooming yourself, pursue your hobbies, make new friends and have fun. In order to grief over the loss of this relationship, you can consider personal counselling which will provide you space to vent out whatever anger, bitterness, hurt and pain you could be holding within you. Take care and love yourself.
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Dear lybrate user. I can understand. But you know there are no other alternatives. You tried your best to convince him but due to some reasons, he is not willing to marry you. I think you should close that chapter and be his friend. The disappointment over the issue will be there for some time and you will feel bad for some days. But life goes on. Leave your hope on the issue and automatically within some days, your disappointment subsides. I suggest counseling. Take care.
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