I am a 27 yrs old girl, I am facing lots of problem in my relationship. I also introduced my bf to my parents but they are not ready to accept him. I have been in this relationship more than 1.5 year. I and my bf have already decided that we will not go against our parents. I am feeling very insecure because my bf took 7-8 times back foot from this relationship. Each and every time he used to talk about my parents that they are not agree and I will not got against them. Every time when I expected his support I found myself alone in front of our parents. I don't know what should I do, I am feeling very depressed because of his behavior. At times I feel its very simple to break this relationship and move on. Every time I only convinced him that everything will be fine. Earlier every time I took initiative whenver he broke up with me but this time I really felt broken and I havn't talked with him since last 6 days. I dnt knw what I should do?

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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I think that your parents? reason to disapprove of this relationship must be considered, if it is valid. If it is not justified, then you can wait. But I understand that both of you have agreed not to do anything as long as they disapprove. That is a good decision. Then how come he is constantly referring to that? is he insecure? in that case you must let him go because it is not fair to hold on to him, if the future is not secure. I am only surprised that since he had agreed, he must also be patient. During the interim you must work on your parents to change their mind. If they are adamant then it seems like a losing battle. You must stop convincing him every time he is reminded about the parents? being against this relationship. He either stays committed or quits, and you need not blame him either. Leave him from an okay position and seek another but this time someone whom your parents will approve. If this is the time and opportunity to stop the relationship completely since you have already stopped talking to him, then go ahead and leave it now. The delay to decide will only lead to unwelcome compromises. 

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