I am 28 year female. I have been in relationship with a guy for 3years I got pregnant 2times mistakenly. Last I used tablets misoprost. I used as per instructions but I was 4-5months pregnant already baby was abort but some clumps and wastage was stuck which took me to hospital for internal wash. Now it's almost last year August thing but still I'm in emotional trauma. I M living alone. I felt bad about baby. I regret and I feel suicidal sometime. I need medical help to come out of this. I lost my baby. even after this. Because I was blaming him for all this happened.
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Hi lybrate-user, it's ok! people in relationship get pregnancy. Do not over think. Married couples also plan baby accordingly when they are physically mentally emotionally and financially able to take care the child. Don't feel bad for the child. You have taken a good stop to save the child from lot many other traumas. Giving birth is easier, but taking care of a child, upbringing and right social environment is a challenge. Is that guy still with you, means he did not ditch you. Having baby is a collective decision. Don't blame him! girls are equally involve in the relationship. It's that men are actually vocal about their sexual needs. Women also have a need of sexual life. It's obvious that it was not the right time for having baby. Stay guilt free. Everything is a past. Now take charge of life and move on.
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It is normal to feel greef. After what you have gone through. In your emotional moment you may blame your partner and inam sure you know that it is not just him. It was both of you. What happend happend and now it is past. We can't do anything about what is gone. What lies ahead is your future. How would you now want to move ahead. Focus on your plan for your future. Always remember that you are in charge of your life. Many times we get influenced by stories and movies and keep building our emotions around them. Think about the other circumstances as well. What would have happend if you had a baby. Are you ready to deal with all that would have come with it? you might be depressed thinking and feeling other things. Always remember that your life and your happiness is your choice. Focus on how to build happy and fulfilling life ahead. Start doing some kind of physical exercise do 30 to 40 minutes 4to 5 times in a week. Doing mindfulness meditation for 10 minutes to begin with would help you build resilience that will help you manage your stress in a much better way. Engage yourself in some activities yiu engage and focus more on building tomorrow than feeling guilty about yesterday. If you feel. That you need initial support to stop negative thought chain and begin positive change in your life feel free to contact me. As a psychologist I will work with you and provide you that initial support system till you once again become confident and independent. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
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