Once my friend (male) had sex encounter with his roommate (male). He has his girlfriend and he is serious about that girl too. But he liked the encounter and he wants to continue and after that he is used to it. Now he is attracted towards boys who are muscular and good looking better than him and at the same time he is in relationship with his girlfriend. He wants to avoid this attraction and sex with male. But he is not able to do it. He has less hair on face and chest and due to that he felt ashamed. I want to know what's happening to him.:(

Ms. Hemal Sanjay KuntePsychologist5yrs exp

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Most probably your friend is gay. He is getting attracted towards males because, that is his sexual inclination. He is probably unable to accept this reality and hence is having a girl friend. It is also possible that he thinks that being gay is a sin/crime, as in indian society, being homosexual is not legally and culturally acceptable. It is also possible that he is a bisexual. He needs to accept his sexuality and understand that even if he marries a girl, he will still get attracted towards males and hence he will not be able to have a healthy and committed relationship with his girlfriend/wife. If he does not understand and accept his sexual orientation and needs, he will not be happy in his life. At the same time his life partner (if a female) also will not be happy. Hence it is advisable for him to accept his reality and make decisions accordingly. To make the things easy for him, he may talk to a counsellor or a sexologist. There are a number of groups of homosexuals, online, these days. He can become a member and seek support from like minded people. 

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