I got married recently and about my wife she tells that she has a friend who is elder than her and she is a widow and my wife wants her to be with us always she always thinks of her and she is not co operative in sex she says she has less interest I am getting doubt on her I am not able to concentrate on my work pleas help me out should I give divorce her to her.
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No need to rush divorce. You will need to get to the bottom of all this before deciding on any course of action. You can first refuse to have another woman in the house. This is not only sensible but advisable too. If you are recently married, you need the first two years all by yourselves to work out a lot of adjustment issues that will crop up, inevitably. If you have a third person in the situation, you will both suffer the privacy and freedom to exercise the coping mechanism most appropriate to the circumstance. Her presence will compromise genuineness and will entail even some kind of interference, even if she is not invited. She may also juxtapose herself in an awkward manner which could threaten the relationship. The widow, being your wife's friend, will definitely gravitate towards her in any disagreement and you will always feel outnumbered. Then, if your wife insists, you could appear to be willing if there is some openness to why she really wants the widow to live with you. And in the bargain, you can negotiate proper sexual relations as part of the deal. You may also express your suspicions about their relations, at a very prudent moment in the discussion, if ever it is opportune. You will need to exercise extreme caution in bringing this out, especially if it is not true. If the reasons proffered are worthy with some rules may be imposed as to her role in the situation, I suppose you can allow it, with a lot of circumspection. This is a risk but if it improves your relationship with your wife in many more areas than just the sexual ones too, I assume it is okay. If these methods do not work, you must reach out to a marriage counselor to get some professional inputs.
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Lgbt issues are very complex and many gay and lesbian persons do not divulge their orientation to their family members and get married. From your narration it is evident that that there is some emotional dependence of your wife on that friend of hers. It could be sexual too and that needs proof to establish it. Your wife has told you about her lack of interest in sex and the desire to keep the friend with you. This itself shows there is more than what meets the eye. Confront her with question about sexual angle and if she agrees, then you have an option of going ahead with a divorce if thats what you want. But most people deny such" sexual" angle and just keep on with their marriage feigning" lack of interest in sex" you and your family have to decide, whether to go ahead and continue with this or to end it all. Confrontation to reveal somebody's sexual orientation, seldom brings results or amends. One's sexual orientation cannot be changed. So it is better to use the know how of her orientation, express it to her and to also tell her that you feel cheated and hence do not want to continue the marriage. If the need be seek services of a marriage counselor and see. You can seek divorce on many grounds, but rather than bicker and throw allegations at each other, it would be better for both parties to have a" mutually consented divorce"
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Honesstly difficult to opine on this issue. Consult, psychologist councellar if it helps you. All the best. May god help you. Be bold and positive.
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