Hi, I am 24 yrs old male currently staying in pune. I have been getting anxiety attacks or panic attacks more often. I passed my b. Tech in 2013. And after that I hadn't got a job. Continuous failures in interviews and pressure from family, I moved to pune in aug'2014 from my native to do a course in software in order to get a job. But I felt I can't concentrate in my studies anymore. Low in confidence, frequent panic attacks and getting an inferiority complex whenever someone yells at me. Sometimes, I get burst my anger and soon realise that wasn't necessary. I am sort of day dreaming, about all the good things that I could possess only if I had money. Seeing my friends here working in mncs might have caused it. And also I think often about the good memories I cherished only to smile a little and then again come back to my upset state. I can't sleep peacefully, I have to tell my mind to stop thinking but I am not able to stop that. Now it has been on a daily basis that I go to sleep at 3-4am. After continuous hustle with my mind to stop thinking, I have got a way to goto sleep. When I can't get this sleep, I masturbate so that I can sleep. And now this process on a daily basis is worrying me much than before.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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I think you are making the mistake of many youth in our country: if you don? t get a job for what you are qualified for then go and do something else for which there is great demand so that your job is assured. Even if you get a job now, very soon you will be disappointed because life is not all about money. You may even get depressed, if you are in the wrong field. If your aptitude was for technology, then that is where your heart will belong too. You must stop pleasing other people and competing with other people because they are happy. You can be motivated by them but not to imitate them and make yourself miserable. Go for career guidance counseling and do an aptitude test to determine what your calling is. The job scene will improve for sure, but you must be prepared for it. Now, I feel your confidence, self-image, and self-worth have all become compromised. If you don? t get at least 6 hours sleep you could be in trouble with more stress. Masturbation is no prescription for sleep: it may be that you are only exhausted and so you will fall asleep! any remedy can be suggested to you and you may actually make them work being so suggestible. Do exercise instead and be occupied with interesting activities. You are too much in your right brain and will need to do some left brain exercises to help with concentration. Try some of these: sleep on your left ear only, shut your left nostril and breathe often, and when exercising count your steps from 1-10, 2-11, 3-12 etc, infinitely as long as the walk is in progress. Go for some counseling and seek help to put your life back on track and to develop yourself emotionally. Do a personality development course too. Because of the asthma, I am concerned that you have a lot of anger and sadness to deal with. 

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