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What you are going through is greaving. Loosing loved one is not easy to deal with emotionally. I am sorry for your loss.
When you are greaving, your mind is continuously engaged in sad and disturbing thoughts and feeling of loss and perhaps guilt.
When sadness over powers you it is difficult to feel any other feelings. Even feeling happy makes you feel guilty and uneasy.
Slow but effective way to over cone sadness is to engage yourself in some neutral activities such as cleaning. Walking or readjng a light book.
Once you try that for few days you may be ready for following things. There are few things I would like you to try.
1. When you feel sad. Feel the feeling of sadness fully. You may close your eyes and let that sadness flow through your mind and body. If tears flow let them flow. Cry it out. Feeling what you feel fully and totally is healing. Once you feel your sadness fully. You might feel the lightness in your heart. Feel that too and say out loud. How wonderful!
and engage your mind remembering some good qualities and good times you spent with the person you are missing.
2. Regular simple breath awareness meditation also help manage your loss.
3. You may also l write daily 3 to 5 things you are grateful to every morning.
These things could be as simple as having a bed to sleep and food to eat. Affirm what you write and add new thing in your list for 7 to10 days. If you are not feeling any change over next 2 weeks or if you lack motivation to initiate and maintain above activities feel free contact me and we could work together for few weeks to months to reverse your cycle and help you appreciate what you have. Hope this helps
wishing you very best.
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