I am an 18 year old girl and I have been sad for quite sometime. When I am with my friends and family, I am all okay and full of cheer but when somebody leaves me alone I just start thinking all these negative things and think of so many bad scenarios where I die or I get killed or I fail at college. Lately Ive also had some trouble with spelling normal words out and I have been the type of kid who's always won at spelling bee-s but I do not know what's wrong with me. Also, sometimes I get chest pains like somebody stabbing me but that goes away in like a minute and they occur like once every 2 weeks sometimes twice. And my appetite is through the raugh , after every meal I feel hungry no matter how much I eat, my appetite isn't satisfied but my weight has been the same 112 lbs for a year now. I also have trouble staying motivated and completing tasks. I need some serious help.
From what I can see is you are developing anxiety disorder. Fear of unknown- Fear of death is prominent. You would need psychiatric treatment for calming down your anxiety and psychotherapy for counseling and learning to manage these doubts and fears. The chest pain is also a sign of anxiety. When you are surrounded with people may be you feel comfortable and safe as soon as you are left alone such thoughts start coming in your head. I would want you to as of now practice
Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, nonjudging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them. Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that’s okay, because that’s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing. Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don’t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don’t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It’s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing.
This is just one technique proven to be helpful out of many. If you feel the need you can consult me.
All the very best.
You need to discuss this with your parents. Do not ignore. Do not feel sigh to talk about this with your family. They will understand and help.
Maybe you will need some doctors help if required.
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