I am in confusion. I don't know what to do. I have two kids. My doesn't love me and his kids also. He won't spend time with family. He always want to spend with others expect with us. If he is in home he will be with mobile and laptop. He will not leave mobile for sec. He carries mobile Even he go to toilet. He always hold mobile and will be doing in mobile. He won't even speak for 5 mins with love to me. And he is so lazy. I have to do everything for him. Only bath he will do by his own other than that I have to do everything. He treats me like servant. I don't mind doing that if he show love on me. But he won't. I really want to die but I can't because I have kids they are two young and I can't imagine them with out me because definitely my husband will not take care of them if I die. And I can't go away from him with my kids. Because I don't have any assets to look after them. But if I stay like this I will go mad. Please suggest me what to do. Is there anything wrong with my mentality. Or with his mentality. How to change my life.
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If you don't know it by now then let me tell you that you are in a very abusive marriage. Abuse is not always physical or sexual. One thing the victim should remember in domestic abuse is that you will be abused to the extent you allow yourself to be abused. Your relationship is absolutely unequal. Your partner is not giving you the emotional and mental support he is supposed to. If you keep up this equation of one sided partnership, you will obviously feel used, helpless, inferior, dependent and exhausted. Stop it at once! stop being his servant. If he loves you, love him back, but don't be his slave. That's the way he will realize you are unhappy. Seek social support from your family, friends or a social service agency. Lots of them are available in your city. Seek professional help from a counselor. If you are depressed then you may need medicines. Fix your problem. You have a right to be happy. And as far as your children are concerned, a bad marriage is as traumatic as a broken marriage, if not more.
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" it not what you have lost but what you have left that counts" relax lybrate user. I could understand your stressful state of mind. A husband's indifference over his wife for a long period of time will certainly cause immense pain. But, you can change this state to the better if you have the strong will. Yes, drop your expectation of love from your husband. You will feel free at once. Accept the stressor that can not be changed. Your 2 children can distract you from all your worries. Focus your concentration on them. You can also distract yourself by doing some job at home that gives any income. Sitting and crying will not help in any way. Rebuild your relationship with your friends and relatives, expand your social network. Fortune favours only the bold. Whatever you have been doing to him, do it without any emotional content, expectation or dislike. He may turn good in course of time.
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