Hi I was in relationship with a girl for few past years We both struggled a lot to be in relationship. We faced so many odds and we did it after a long effort But three months back she broke up with me. The reason being her mom. We had actually decided to convince our parents and then get married it was still a long way to go. But from few months she is very much worried that her mom will not accept our love. Her mom is a widow having 3 daughters. My ex girlfriend being the eldest of all. Also one of her relatives had gone through love marriage and all of their relatives are ignoring like they are not even humans. So she doesn't want her mom to be humiliated in the same way. That's the reason she broke up with me Earlier she did so many promises to me that she'll never leave me. But now shez not at all interested in love. I m truly addicted to her I am in utter depression since our breakup. I was really a studious boy since breakup. I got really good grades in my +2 but now in B. TECH I have flunked in 3 subject. Shez certainly not my distraction. Only reason I can't concentrate on anything is I love her a lot and I feel too lonely and empty without her Life sucks without her. I have no hopes that I may get her back but also I am sure I can't be happy without her. I think my problem is too lengthy please don't mind. Please read completely. I am in a state of depression I can't forget her Can you please suggest what is the best thing to do now? I really don't want to miss her. I am totally confused can I get her back? Or should I give up? Please advise me Thank you.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi , I can completely understand your concern. Your situation demands proper counseling sessions. It?s never easy when a significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split?and whether you wanted it or not?the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are plenty of things you can do to get through this difficult time and move on. You can even learn from the experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person. Few things to Consider: Don?t fight your feelings ? It?s normal to have lots of ups and downs, and feel many conflicting emotions, including anger, resentment, sadness, relief, fear, and confusion. It?s important to identify and acknowledge these feelings. While these emotions will often be painful, trying to suppress or ignore them will only prolong the grieving process. Talk about how you?re feeling ? Even if it is difficult for you to talk about your feelings with other people, it is very important to find a way to do so when you are grieving. Knowing that others are aware of your feelings will make you feel less alone with your pain and will help you heal. Journaling can also be a helpful outlet for your feelings. Remember that moving on is the end goal ? Expressing your feelings will liberate you in a way, but it is important not to dwell on the negative feelings or to over-analyze the situation. Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger, and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward. Remind yourself that you still have a future ? When you commit to another person, you create many hopes and dreams. It?s hard to let these dreams go. As you grieve the loss of the future you once envisioned, be encouraged by the fact that new hopes and dreams will eventually replace your old ones. Know the difference between a normal reaction to a breakup and depression ? Grief can be paralyzing after a breakup, but after a while, the sadness begins to lift. Day by day, and little by little, you start moving on. However, if you don?t feel any forward momentum, you may be suffering from depression. For targeting your specific concerns, we would need to take sessions. All the best:) 

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