Dr. My Husband get lot of tensed. What can I do. I want to share lot of things sir. We are love marriage. 3 months only we are married. 9years we loved then marriage. But still he did not understand me. Like we are working same office. So he said" you don't know why behavior like office. And he said compare to another one guy but that guy I totally hurt. My office staff s all are known I am good character and speakly friendly. But he said wrong. I can not bearable Dr. Last 9 years that same problem, was continued Dr. what can I do. And I got a new job. He said do not go here. Any other boyfriend have this office he asking. Totally I hurt for my self Dr. He totally damaged my self Dr. So I can not bearable thats why I attempt a suicide Dr. My mind is restless Dr. What can I do. I try to spoke with him but he started very bad words. How can I try to understand him. Please Dr. help me.

Mr. P. RajanPsychologist26yrs exp

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The root cause of the problem is his possessiveness on you. In my view, the modernity attitude of indian women has drastically grown/changed. But, in the case our men, modernity has grown/changed only in lifestyles like dressing sense, hair styling/external appearance. Psychologically they are not prepared to accept a woman who is very jovial, easy-going with other men as their wives. Consciously they accept the job and financial support from wives, but unconsciously they feel being dominated by their wives. We have been undergoing cultural shock, because of the media which brings many foreign cultures into our home, and globalization etc. Don't loose hope. As a husband his possessiveness is more than when he was your lover. You can try to take him to a psychological counselor, but tell him you are in need of counseling, he has to accompany you when you go to a counselor. The counselor knows how to handle the situation. Almost, it happens in most of the working women in our country. Time will heal any kind of wound. 

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