I am unable to control my impatience, anger and anxiety, as a result I make the life of people around me difficult. I do not think my expectations are unrealistic. It's just that I do not tolerate chalta-hai attitude. People feel that I go into minute details. But then quality comes with details. Maybe I'm failing to carry people with me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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You probably are a high achiever, and do not like and perhaps cannot even tolerate people who are lackadaisical. While that is a good thing for you, people are all born and bred differently. A good leader is the one who can tap into each one?s capability and get the best out of them, not the best you want, necessarily. So it depends on the kind of people you have, and the ideal technique would be to bring the best of each individual, within their capacity. Impatience, anger and anxiety have never brought about harmony in work situations to produce the best. You must love your people and with love much more can be achieved. When you over-detail, you lose the larger picture. That is where you may be getting caught up with the minor steps, at the cost of the end result. There has to be a discrete blend between the process and the result. You cannot be stuck in one end or the other. You last statement is quite revealing and a very honest assessment: you have got to carry people with you. I think it is in Howard University that you are greeted with a huge banner that reads something like this: ?The bottom line of any organization is its people? In people, it is through good relationships. If you build good relations while getting work done, everyone will go home satiated and the work will get done excellently: details and large picture too. You seem to be the common factor, where the problem probably lies. If you don't believe me, then have an open discussion with the workforce and find answers. You may even discuss my response, to stimulate some openness. 

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