I'm so depressed because of a love failure. I'm not able to forget him, even though he have done so many brutal things to me. Something is pulling me back to forget him. I lost my studies for a year because of mental depression. And I'm always thinking of ending up my life. I can't even think of a new life. I have been spending my 6 six years in my home itself. Nowhere to go. And nothing to move on. In getting mad of thinking about my love in my home. And sometimes I'm too aggressive. What should I do? Please tell me a way to forget him.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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No body is worth dying for, period. Your life is too precious and if that guy had not appreciated it, you dump him. If you had broken up and you are still thinking about him, it only means that you loved this boy very much. I hope you were not the one to break up with him. If it was, then you have played a game and now you have regrets. The clock cannot be turned back again, I suppose. The trouble is that you want to attempted suicide over this love affair. This means that you might have entered into a symbiosis and him leaving has become life-threatening. That itself might be the reason for the breakup. Boys want a relationship where independence is respected and there is no clingy behavior. You have got to look into this aspect of your personality. Are you becoming too dependent on the boy and therefore demanding? This is not a welcome feature for a boy to want to maintain this relationship. You must develop yourself to become independent and responsible. Maintain respectful distance. There are three important developments in an individual that creates an autonomous personality: intimacy, awareness, and spontaneity. Of these, awareness is of great importance: it will help you know yourself internally and to also make you conscious of other people around you. This person is able to meet her needs and that of the other in a balanced manner. You must learn to do this soon. If you resolve the symbiosis, you will do really well. Meet with a counselor and describe your longings, needs and wants, openly. Take your parents along and let them describe your entire life till now and the counselor will get an understanding of your plight. Remove everything that is a reminder of this boy in the meantime and start working on your development. Life is too precious and no one is worth dying for. Demonstrate how you will look after yourself and work on doing that. Learn independence skills and do a personality development course too. By sitting at home you will brood and think of this boy more. So get out and socialize and that is how you are going to meet other boys, and make a new relationships: this time do not hurry and learn lessons from the past. 

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