I am 25 years old women. Now I am in so much stress. My husband do not love me, he is engaged with some other girl. Even I adjust with him from last 2 years as he avoid me. He is in his world only he use my whole salary. Not giving me any happiness. I do not have father and my brother spend big money for my marriage thats why I face this all. Now he suddenly said I do not want to live with you. He do not want our relation his sister and jiju also giving so much tension to me. I love him because I need that home to live. I do not have any option I beg him to take me. I said do another marriage but do not live me like this. Where should I go. But he will not care for me. He is going with my whole jewellery and salary too. I trust him more thats why I give all to him. Now I feel very alone. My brother love me he support me but my medical expenses are more. I want my husband but he do not want me. What to do/ how to get him back. Or shall I start my new life and leave him. because I also have my life my emotions but he is playing with me. please do help.

Ms. Shyamala DinakarPsychologist7yrs exp

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Dear madam, as you said, you have your own emotions and he is behaving like a dumb. May be he might have got married to use your money also to enjoy with his girlfriend without knowing anyone around him. He will not let you to leave the home, coz he needs your money. I guess that he is not getting satisfaction out of your relationship. First of all, ask him what bothers him not to have a peaceful life with you? is that the money or the extramarital relationship? if he decides for sure that he doesn't want to lead life with u, stop giving him money or your salary. Tell him that you want the money for your safety as he decided to leave. Tell his parents that he is in contact with another lady so that he is not having proper personal life with u, it is important because he may think of situations to transfer his mistakes on you. Tell your brother and mother that this what the situation is going on. Do not stay with him! coz without his knowledge or by any situational chance if you get pregnant, do you think that he will take care of you? if you say yes, then will try to give him a chance to learn from his mistakes. But if your mind says that he will never regret for his mistakes, then it is the time for your call. Coz you have ask questions in your mind that does he prepare his mind for the child in future? does he spend time and money for the upbringing of your child? so you need to walk away from that place dear. If your family members forces you to get married to the next person, then think of it! meanwhile focus on your job and earn some money for your future safety. Learn from this mistake that do never give your personal valuable things like passbook and jewels to anyone whom you r going to live with unless you have full faith in him. 

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