My only son (9 Yr) is now a student of Class IV in a School at semi-urban area with his mother along with one of my relatives family (4 members) separately. I am working in other place away from them and attending week end / holidays. My wife is looking after every thing. She is efficient, accommodative, and is teaching child. At home have no TV connection. Child is (i) very arrogant and is not intending to study; (ii) eating too much, health is good; (iii) talkative other than study matter; (iv) mobile, computer may be handled quickly and can practice any play without any target; (v) has ability to grasp any songs/music; (vi) during study period he can grow different reasons to away from the class. Because of him my family peace is going away from home. My wife is becoming unrest for him. School is not far away, five minutes by walk.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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Seems like he is a highly intelligent child but not in the academic sense and is showing signs of emotional disturbances. He has probably entered puberty at an early age. The other thing is whether he has had any developmental problems earlier that are beginning to surface looking for a resolution. These could also have an impact on these observations of yours. Kindly meet with the school counselor, and if they do not have one, then perhaps a child counselor will suffice. A change of house around the age of 9 has also been reported to disturb some kids. Is he allowed to play organized games either at school or at home? Exercise and games will exhaust the excess energy that may help him calm down for school pursuits. I feel that a tutor may be useful to help him settle with his studies. Keep in touch with his teachers to know what their feedback is and work with them as to how to help him. No TV may be a problem for him. Have the TV but discipline him around it. Your absence, especially at his age, is probably affecting some of his rebelliousness. Sometimes too much parental strictness only invites rebelliousness at this age. Do not allow excess eating: not only is that a health hazard but it is also making him compensate by oral gratification and the obesity may become difficult for him to lead an active life. Now the brief time that you come over on the weekends cannot be all spent in reprimanding him either, but besides that, do spend quality time with him as much as you can. Your wife cannot be both father and mother, at the same time. 

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