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I am a software engg by profession, recently i came across a girl in my office newly joined as intern but in a different team. 2 months back somehow i could manage to find her name and fb profile & i sent a friend request to her & she accepted that & asked me whether i know her, i said i saw you in office we work in the same company this is our first interaction. One day early morning in the office i thought i should call her for a tea & intro myself for this i just pinged her on fb to initiate a conversation however she didn't responded & in the evening she un-friend me i found it very rude & immature, if she wanted to do this then she should have not accepted the request. Next day i thought i should apologize to her for sending a friend request & normalize the issue as i don't want that we both feel uncomfortable when we see each other in the office it will very awkward situation so i did apologize to her by saying "i am sorry i din't realize how uncomfortable it would have been for you seeing unknown guy poking you" she replied its ok and went. Then whenever i use to see her i use to say Hi she also responds with Hi this went like for few days, then 2-3 times i could manage to talk to her about herself & career, guided her how she should progress in the company she talked very gently , frankly as if she is ok but whenever i see her i only initiate & she crosses as if she doesn't know me i f i don't say Hi this makes me thing "is she really comfortable talking to me" ? i should better ask her because i don't wanted that someday all of sudden she things that i am stalking & harassing her. I thought of asking her in alone over a snacks/tea for this i sent an email once "Up for Tea" but she didn't respond one day i met her personally i thought i will ask her now but somehow i couldn't get that confidence so i left it but after two days i msgd her on fb and asked can we talk about that she said yes i asked her that "are you comfortable when we talk" firstly she said "lame joke, gud nyt" i again asked her & i wrote one line along with this "that btw black suites you" after that she responded "Ques is dumb n inappropriate.I talk to my colleague about my project n work culture.Wats dere to not be uncomfy.Dont send buttering flith.I conclude_ u r nt a gud person to talk. I said i am sorry if i hurted you it's a compliment if you don't like it i take my words back i wrote sorry so many times but she didn't responded i felt like a beggar & found her very egoistic, i said don't do this i would feel guilty & it would become difficult for me to face you but she didn't respond. I started feeling for her now i don't know how to behave with her ? shall i talk to her in office normally or i should stop talking & ignore her? but if i do this i will hurt myself only because i really feel like talking to her but i don't want things to go worsen in office as it could spoil my career if she complains, Please guide me what i should do now, what should be my next course of action ?


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