I'm 23 years old female. I got married 6 months back and it was a love marriage. My parents were completely happy with the proposal and both sides equally consented. We were classmates in college and had just completed the course. Bt he was able to fetch a good job and so didn't want to delay the marriage. Bt my parents didn't want to announce it as a" love marriage" as we both were too young and also it's the first one of the sort in the family and also due to other conservative thoughts. They were afraid of the judgement of the relatives (which of course didn't bother me. But I agreed to their wish and even had to keep it as a secret with my close cousins (which was a great pain ).i didn't want to do this but I was forced. I was also forced to warn our friends to not give any signs. During the wedding, I felt like they all came to know the truth as our classmates attended the wedding.(i felt so frm their attitude). I don't know if it's true or if l felt so just because I bear that suffering or if they had some other issues. Anyways I couldn't enjoy even a moment of my special day. Now I don't want to be in between them. I don't feel like facing my cousins or attending a family function. What should I do? I always wanted to express the truth. I feel guilty that I had to restrict our friends from celebrating their special occasion as well as hiding behind a veil in front of the relatives which was again against my wish. Everyone said me that it's not a big deal but it is seriously haunting me now.
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How does it matter whether it was arranged or a love marriage. It happened with the consent of your parents. Love marriage is not a crime. Take out all this crap from your mind and enjoy your newly wedded life.
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Dear mam, A lot of times the worries and negative thoughts are products of our mind and has little bearing with reality. People who attended your weddings like your friends and cousins have a life of their own and it's unlikely that they will be even thinking about your wedding. Talk to your friends and I am certain that they must have enjoyed your wedding. There is no reason to feel guilty about not letting everyone know that it's a love marriage, it's your marriage you have a right to share as much as you want. Engage you're, and keep yourself busy. Try to think about what lies ahead instead of dwelling on the details of the wedding. You can't change what has already happened. Still, if you are unable to keep your thoughts in check see a psychiatrist for further help.
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