I fell in love. My relation had been going on before 3 years back. And now she is going to marry in her cast by next year. Actually what happen she offer me for marriage but I dint accept for that moment because I am not stable. In feb 2014 she left me. And she is not any more in my life. But still I remember all that days. I don't know why all these thoughts comes in my mind. For that I get disappoint now and every time. Almost 2 yrs is going to be complete. But I unable to forget her. nowadays I always wanted to meet her. But she not talked to me. Sometimes we chat on whatsapp for 10 mins only and after that she blocked me not to talk further. As I chat with her, tears comes out. But she make fun of all these things. Now she says that" go and enjoy somewhere else. Where you can find happiness" but how can I forget her. And in a relation we have done everything whatever need to do. But I don't understand one thing that how she can forget all those days, all memories. & how can she happy without me. And why I m not. In 3 and half yrs relation she used to call me more than 500 times, message me. Always insist to meet. All these used to do. Now what happen? please help me doctors. I am in very bad trouble.

Ms. Samiksha JainPsychologist10yrs exp

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From her behaviour it's very clear that she has moved on in life and doesn't have any need for you probably since you don't belong to her caste. My dear these are hard realities of life that once some people were very close to you and now they are no longer a part of your life. You would have also left some very close friends ehind when you finished school, college or changed houses. This is the circle of life and growing up and changing is one large part of it. Every change brings some losses and some gains. You will be better off by concentrating on what became better after she left and what you can do with your time. If you are under the impression that everyone gets to marry their first love. Then you will need to change that thinking. Look around you and you will find many such people who have gone through similar situations or worse and found ideal life partners in the most odd people. My advice to you is to forget and remember what was good in the relationship and her and move on to find someone who could settle down with you. Get going with your work because these are your golden years to establish yourself. If you remain in this state for too long, you could loose out on some good job offers, nice girls and some good friends who have helped you till now. If all this is not possible to do on your own, then find a counsellor and ask their help and guidance to get you back on track. 

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