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My query is in relation to hormonal changes in a women. I am divorced as my ex wife had unusual behaviour and says its because of hormonal changes (her age 40 same as mine). Massive outburst of anger range, thinking the person is best at times and then same person is bad if he acts or decides something which she does not like, abondament issue as if you are going to leave her (insecurity), impulsively leave a relationship without thinking of the consequences, compulsively lying and manipulation was also a part of our relationship as she wanted things her way and suite her needs, controlling nature and wanting others to behave that way. We did have differences and breakup in our relationship and use to not speak with each other, if I approach after 15-20 days she is all on me as to why I did not contact her for so many days but in reality she is the one to breakup and show no interest in a relationship at that point of time in her anger rage. She also degrades others family members thinking they are plotting against her and doubt all actions done by them are to harm her but in reality it is not the case. When taking any impulsive decision like leaving a relationship (done many times) for small things which can be sorted out she expects me to say sorry for it and call her back and not believe in all she said in anger and when told she could have called me and said sorry she says why I should call you because she is not at fault. Even she is not sure of her decision making and cannot control her emotions and doubts how she will make decisions at workplace. There is so much more to be said but I hope this provides a brief summary of my inconsistent �experience. I still do love her and want to be together but do not know is hormones causing all this or something else and how to deal with it. She is a student counsellor and has been divorced at age 23 and given her boy child to her father. She is currently living in Mumbai Nagpada.
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To confirm the effects of hormones you will need to consult an endocrinologist. As matters stand I suspect that it has to do with paranoia, which is a fear based condition, but she could escalate anger over that. She may suffer from a severe case of rejection, which includes abandonment too. Control will be an important requirement for her to feel in charge. The fear is the key and if that can be identified and accepted by her, a lot of work can be done. You must take her to a counselor and if that person advises a doctor too, then you must consider that too.
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