Hi, this is male 30. I masturbate since last 15 years when I was in 6 standard, starting it was twice a week then it is regular, sometimes it twice a day, now I have many problems, like back pain, headache, bone weakness, skin and face problems, and depression, my questions is there any effect on my married life, cause I been maarige recently, and I read somewhere that marriage (sex) life is only for 20 to 25 year, which I have gave my 15 years on waste which I told you above, second question is, is there any effects on my future babies like some my lack of hormones or genetic problem, third questions is I have depression problem, is it cause from this, can you prescribe me some medicine or some else.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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Masturbation is not really bad; it is the addiction to it that is bad. Not even the number of years is a problem but the frequency and compulsiveness to do it is to be considered for its ill-effects. The problem with addiction to this is that you may go on to prefer masturbation to heterosexual contact, even when you are married. That obviously would be an insult to your wife and will lead to a lot of conflict. You are fortunate that you are not complaining about sex with your wife. The second thing that can happen with addiction is that it will become compulsive and will have no boundaries or limits, since it can be done all by yourself, whenever, wherever, and however too. Now the big problem a lot of people get into is the guilt around this. That is where your depression, headaches, back pain etc. May have their origins. Sex in marriage is never ending as long as you are physically and psychologically fit. There will be no effect on future babies for any reason. Now that you are married just enjoy that relationship and forget the past: forgive yourself if need be and enjoy life with your wife. If the depression does not leave you in a hurry, then meet with a counselor or sexologist and get rid of your anger towards yourself for the masturbation, by expressing the feeling. 

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