My baby is presently 3 & half years old and I believe she got some psychological shortfall in her attitude as she behaves very unusual frequently wherever she belongs, irrespective at home or school or elsewhere. We, parents are deeply concerned about her ongoing. Nothing got productive even to see a specialist doctor. She always used to say" nothing feel well (kuch achha nehi lag raha hai)" despite presenting various mind game. Such a small kid & with such a manner looks very unimpressive and uncomfortable indeed! Feeding to her is the most awkward and troublesome job to us. The most crazy thing is that she used to cry and shout (bizarre) almost throughout the day which makes us anxiety and thus may lead to break her health. Nothing around us can make her anger/obstinacy/ irritation/impatience in control. FYI, nobody of our predecessors was hailed such kind of characteristics nor presently we belong. Our baby is everything to us, so please advise how to coup up with this situation and how to keep well my baby in the days coming. Is it curable or else need to treat other way? Thanking you with regards,

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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It appears more and more from the brief that you have shared that he may be still stuck in his ?terrible twos?. For your information, it is at two years that children discover that they are no longer the center of the world, and it upsets them so that they want to test boundaries to see how much you will tolerate him before he either makes you reject him or he learns to control his urges and learns that you will have needs to be met too sometimes, and only after that his needs will be met: this is a very important learning he must achieve around that age. May be he has not gone through that phase happily. I suggest that you give him a lot of physical contact and enjoy his company. He needs to understand that whatever happens you will love him. Where the eating is concerned do not make a lot of fuss around it. Just keep him in front of the food and give him time to eat or even feed him. If he does not eat for some time nothing will happen. When he is hungry, he will want food and will also ask for the same. That is when you can give him the food. As long as he is active, there is nothing too serious to worry about. I hope you have taken him for all the necessary medical checks to rule out any physical cause. In the meantime there are some questions that I would love answered or for you to take him to a child psychiatrist. My questions: Was the conception normal? Was there a miscarriage or abortion before this child was born or after? How was the nine months of pregnancy for the mother i.e. was she under any kind of stress? Was the pregnancy normal? Was there any threat to the pregnancy? Was she on any medication? Was there any need for supplements? What was her emotional condition? Did she like the pregnancy? Was she happy during and about the pregnancy? Did she get good support from you? Was the delivery normal and on the due date? How long was he breast fed? Did he have any problems with bedwetting etc.? This information will help even a counselor to bring further insight into this problem. If some of these questions raise any serious concerns, you can help the child resolve it with some professional help from a child counselor. 

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