I live with my 4 months old child, mother in law and my husband's nephew, my husband is out for work and comes once in 3 days. In his presence these people show that they help me so much But when he goes to office they do not offer me any help. I am handling my small child all alone. I feel overwhelmed with frustration. Almost going into depression. Also. I want to work for my child's better future. My husband works very hard that is why I cannot share much of my problems with him. My mother wants to keep the child so that I can focus on my career. But at the same time I am deep down with guilt. Please suggest me something. Thank you in advance.
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First relax and think what is good for you and your family. Then talk to him about your condition, your career then decide what to do and how.
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lybrate-user Having a baby is a huge transition in your life. Every transition comes with lots of ups and downs and adjustments. The baby demands a lot of attention, and when you have to solely take care of the child, even doing the basic things as going to the washroom needs planning. Also, our hormones are undergoing changes and that adds to our processing of information and our moods. Having a child is the biggest blessing, but despite that in that span of 24 hours we long for some me-time. To help yourself sort all of this, it will be good to get some ground set. The idea is you can't change anyone else's behavior or opinions. But you can do a lot of changes in your own behavior. That is the only thing which will give you the power to deal with any situation. Your child is your responsibility. Grandparents, friends, relatives will play with the child, babysit them for some time but they should not and neither we should expect them to take care of the child like you do. Whatever help they offer to you be glad that they are doing so, even if it is only in front of your husband. Be grateful for it. Look for some other temporary arrangement who can help you with the baby. As you said, you wish to work for your child. You sure can start doing something, but as your child is 4 months only and it is recommended that you breastfeed your child for first six months. If your mother is willing to take care of the child while you work, then go ahead with it. You wish to talk further in detail, or if you feel you have low mood all the time, it is healthy to see a psychologist. It would be good for your well-being. A happy mother means a happy child. All the best.
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