I am in a very depressed state. I am a married women of age 25 and husband is also the same age as me. We have been married for 4 yrs. Ours is a love marriage but our love faded away very soon and I am facing a whole lot of problem from then. We have lots of misunderstanding between us. Each time he fights and goes away for weeks without an word. He would not even answer my calls. Its one sided always I have to be the one who takes efforts to console him make him talk and adjust the situation and go. He does not spend any time with me, is not interested in sex too. I have expressed my feeling to him many times but it seems like he does not care always taking me for granted. I couldn't leave my husband no matter how abusive he is. I love him so much but want to break out of this situation. Please help me to stay strong.

Dr. Sanjay ShivyogiAyurveda10yrs exp

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Hi Lybrate user frist of all I must say that this type of situation is very crucial for any person. Being a holistic Ayurveda physician I can suggest you some thing new to do for resolving this issue, these advice is based on holistic and spiritual, behaviour science which may be difficult to understand but works very instantly and these steps are very simple. 1-Acceptance :frist you have to accept your current suffering and the the person by which you are suffering. By doing this you can able to control your reaction effectively and you can able to focus on yourself. 2-take responsibility :take total responsibility of your suffering that you are responsible for this only. Here the basis is spiritual karmic connection. Past life issues. Whether it seem that you are right and why second one is behaving so badly to you. 3-Read your thoughts and reactions going on in your mind for concern person :if your mind is full of anger, resentment, negative thoughts then stop these things by activating believe system that what ever is going in your mind may manifested in reality so why I think negative and have bad emotions. Here basis is that our mind is creator, things comes to frist in our mind and then it manifests in reality. 4- forgiveness: If you believer that you are responsible for this issue then you can understand why I have to forgive him for what suffering he has given to you. Again basis is spiriittual past life, in which you may have given pain, non acceptance to that person so you both are here to resolve this issue but scenario is reverse. So if you forgive him then the issue is resolved. Proof for resolution is if the face of that person comes in your mind and you are not feeling any negative thoughts and emotions except love then this is the proof the issue is resolved. 5-create what you want :every time think what type of love, Releation, and behaviour you want from him and visualize it with real feelings in present moment with believe that it will happen to me. 6-Action is not important but corresponding reaction is important :after reading this next time what you face control yourself to react. 7-You are not alone God is always with you always pray for yourself and your family and tell Him (god) I have learned a lesson and I want to change this situation as you want visualize in your prayers that it is happening in your life. 8-Always do your duty, be stand in love and care support with him whether he is suffering with his own fault. Wait for miracle happens in your life. Always blessed and happy if you any further assistance feel free to consult me.  

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