Ok so i'm a 25 year old unmarried girl- singer and fashion blogger. In relationship with a divorced man (2 broken engagements earlier) with a 6 year old son. We fell in love and got engaged within a month. It's 2 years now and These days I'm full of negative thoughts and guilt and all tears. It was my birthday, and in his child's school a Mother's Day.(His parents and child live in Bangalore) we had made a 2 day holiday plan as relationship was getting worse each passing day. He chose to go visit son and spend time with him rather so he doesn't feel left out. I was thinking of first sorting things between us and then take step ahead. On my 25th birthday I was alone. He made me feel guilty that I don't care about child's emotions, I feel abandoned. Was my decision of not going without sorting our personal issues right? Or was it wrong on my part? Did he do the right thing by prioritising child over my emotions? I feel so lost n broken.

Dr. Meeta SharmaPsychologist8yrs exp

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Dear lybrate-user, Firstly, a big hug for you. Relationships can be hard sometimes. Especially so if your partner has children, one has to keep juggling priorities. I feel that you both were right in your respective spaces. His child became the priority and for your resolving your personal issues became yours, it was a catch 22 situation. But all that is in the past. You are young, you have a wonderful life ahead of you. If you have chosen to be with this man then give it your best, accept him with his family, love them like your own. Things will start to change for the better. He has not abandoned you, birthdays are important but sometimes we cannot be together, that's life, you'll have more birthdays together. But be sure that he is the one for you, don't be in a hurry to marry, take your time. Try to resolve your issues first. Also, I feel individual and couples therapy is something that you both would benefit from. You can reach me here and we can set up a session if you feel that you're ready to resolve this and would like some support. Hope things work out for you. God bless.  

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