My girlfriend is psychologically hurted & not stable and I am not able to direct her the right path. Which makes me over think about everything near me. Please tell me how can I help her. Her parents hurt her likw anything. because of which she is in depression & takes everything negatively. And gets more into physical activities so she feels relaxed as said by her. I cant see her like this. Is there any psychological solution or something that can be done to make her stable?

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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This is really wonderful that you want to help her at your age! I suppose she is younger than you and so I suspect that she is going through the last phase of her adolescence. This may last or may have already lasted two years only. After that it will subside but she should have resolved a lot of the problems of parental abuse by then. Otherwise she will carry all the negative traits into her adult life and then when it starts to degenerate, things could get bad. I therefore suggest that she talks to a counselor and see what that person can do in the circumstances. If that person wants to meet with the parents then that must happen too. You have to be patient and loving to her through all this. She should not feel rejected by you under any circumstances. In fact she may inadvertently try to make you reject her but you must not buy into that easily. After she resolves the issues she will be truly worth the wait and she will be able to love you passionately. She is right about her exercise: when she does vigorous exercise the energy of the anger will be expelled and she will feel a lot calmer. But this is a temporary solution and the more permanent one lies in sorting out the feelings she has accumulated over the years. You must be by her side and help her through all this. But I like you and may your tribe increase. 

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