I am a 22 years old young guy. I finished my ug degree in engineering this year only. I hate my parents. But I love my mother very much. Without him i'm nothing. I have no father. He left my mother and me in my childhood. Afterthat my mom only taking responsibility to protect me and save me from this world. But now my mom is not true for me. She is in relationship with someone. I hate this very much. But I didn't ask anything about it to my mom. I know this from my mom's mobile number. That time also I never believed it. But oneday I saw that f**king person in my home with my mom. I don't want to live in this world. Why I want to live hereafter? my dad left me at the childhood and my mom also not true for me now. Then y want to live? I waste my life in engineering and now. Everyone in this world are fake. Nobody is perfect. I hate everything. I have lots of stress and pain my mind. I can't sleep well in any night. Please give me idea to die.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I am sorry that your father abandoned you and mom in childhood. This is certainly having a great impact on you. Your anger towards your father is causing you too much distress and I suggest that you speak to a counselor and purge it out of your system, and soon too. As a result of your father?s absence, you and your mother have been stuck in a symbiosis, where you are unable to see her love someone else. Naturally you thought she was all there for you alone but you now find that she is devoting her time and love to another. Here again it will help to talk to a counselor to handle this intolerance you have developed. It seems that mom has fulfilled her duty towards you and feels like she can move on with her life. You must look at her with empathy. If you cannot tolerate her meeting her needs, you can imagine how much of a sacrifice she has made living without love herself and devoting all these years exclusively for your education and well being! You have to break out of the symbiosis and grow up to be your own man. If you truly love your mom, you must encourage her to live her life now that she has shaped yours. Because you are stuck in the symbiosis in an unhealthy manner, you feel like you are not able to break the apron strings and move on with your life. But move on you must. Mom sacrificed to give you life but you do not seem to appreciate that and cannot even seem to want to live. You need to get on with your life and will understand all this better, if and when you get into another relationship yourself: now that is something I suggest you explore. It will open your eyes to other people?s needs and thereby you will have an understanding of your mom. Life is very precious and you are too. Be a man and go conquer the world. Life has just begun for you but you may end up a quitter, if you do not live a life of your own and in a most fruitful way. A counselor will certainly help you in many ways to reach your milestones in life and grow in maturity soon. 

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