What should I do to reduce stress ,tension and worry ,which are usually because of my past events. I am not able to delete my past events. Which makes me annoying.
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Hello, Like you have mentioned you are still stuck in the past and unable move on with your life. If the past event means someone hurt you then you should try to forgive them even if they don't ask. Coz it will bring peace to you. Do it for your slef. If past event means you did something then learn to forgive yourself. It is difficult to do counselling on messages. Better done in person so there can be a detailed discussion. And it may require more than one session. You have to open up and talk. Please see a psychiatrist who will be able to guide you.
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You are a young guy and have some bad past memories and you want to forget them. First of all I would like to tell you that there is no medicine available that can therapeutically help in forgetting past. So you have to just rely on Psychological methods to forget them. You can try following things- - Divert your attention completely from the bad memories. If that is not possible then try to keep yourself busy in work, studies. It is the work or study which can only help you to move on. - Second thing is Behavior Therapy. Behavior Therapy is a Psychosocial modality of treatment. It is a complex method and used in a lot of disorders. You have to visit a psychologist for this. It consist of following steps- First of all therapist teach relaxation methods to individual. The methods commonly consist of Progressive Muscle Relaxation Exercise or Breathing Exercises. Some therapists use biofeedback also. Once individual learn to relax himself then therapy progress to next step. Next step consist of making a list of most distressing memories in order of severity. I know this is a difficult step but you have to do it. In this step low dose Clonazepam can be taken in order to relieve distress and anxiety. After the list is prepared then in next visit individual is asked to remember the bad memories or to relive the trauma again. When distress occurs he is asked to relax himself by Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) that has been taught to individual in first step. Gradually in subsequent visits individual is exposed to most distressing memory. With time individual learn to relax himself even with memories. Once the memories fail to produce distress then they start fading away by own. This is a complex process and need at least twice a week visits for about 4-6 weeks. You will definitely see improvement in yourself by Behavior Therapy. One thing I would like to advise you, please don't use any drugs or substances to forget the memories. These things will only increase the stress. Usually in times of distress the individual tend to fell in addiction. So please try to remain away from them. Hope it helps, if you have more questions you can ask again.
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Hi lybrate-user It seems like you have had some very difficult experiences that continue to make you feel distressed. It is natural for anyone to continue feeling worried and stressed if traumatic experiences are not processed (which can happen for many reasons ranging from adverse childhood experiences to lack of adequate resources in the present). Generally, as we try to 'delete' or 'forgive and move on' without working through the unpleasant emotions, we end up getting even more worried. To use a cliche, its like the elephant in the room. Also, in such situations, in addition to the difficult events, we also start doubting ourselves and worrying about our inability to forget and move on. This only adds to the distress, and can be a very frustrating cycle. To begin with, please give yourself time, patience and care you deserve, in the same way as you would care for someone you love. I think you are likely to find it helpful to seek help from a qualified psychologist who understands trauma, and who will be able to help you work through these concerns. All the best.
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