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Dr. Ms. Anubha Verma

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I am 17 year old boy and I have dummy school because I am preparing for IITJEE and do not do any exercise, many times I always feel insecure outside home in front of any one else and I think I think off too much to be dominant on others but I can't do it naturally , I try to think how to behave and thats why I don't behave normally .My brain is getting tired to do that artificially all the time .i too much for every thing ,how should I divert my brain from it (its also affecting my studies ) I am getting low confident ,and I sleep very late like at 2o clock and wake up at 10 o clock because I am addicted to facebook. Please help me (i also do masturbation)

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Your sleep patterns are not healthy for you. Addiction to social media is also a debilitating condition. But your desire to dominate other people is what is called the power struggle: in every situation of two or more people power struggles will go on and that it not harmful unless you take it too far. This world is a 'dog-eat-dog world' and there is a lot of competition and we must be prepared for the worst. So if you want to dominate others do it by equipping yourself well. Here are several things you can do to further that goal: study well, speak well, be physically and emotionally fit, dress well, become well-groomed, be presentable, have good habits, conduct yourself well; do a personality development course, attend good conversational skills course, join the Toastmasters Club, do a personal grooming course, practise elocution etc. You must eat well, sleep well, and do regular exercise. These may all appear unnatural to you but these are things that everybody wants to and wishes to do to get on in life. Absolutely not harm in it at all.
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How can we strong our memory power please suggest the best solution and this problem is facing me from 2 weeks. Please reply as soon as possible.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , you do not have any unique problem to worry about. I know you are referring to education related memory. You are young and therefore there are no chances of having amnesia type of mental problems. Earlier days children were distracted by outdoor games and indoor games and other entertaining activities so they forget. Nowadays you are distracted by mobile or laptop. In any case, lack of interest in studies are a problem. You need to cultivate interest in your studies. For that you need to have specific goals and aspiration. These goals and aspiration provides internal motivation and there by you cultivate interest in your studies. Please set a goal after analyzing many aspects like your interests, skills, aptitudes etc. Once set, whatever may happen, do not change it and set course and path to achieve the goal. Automatically you will remember whatever you learned, if you learn with interest' effective learning methods' should help you. Post a private question if you want more help on this regard. Take care.
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My bp is 115 /82 BP , anxiety disordern & chest pain & body weakness I go to my doctor it's like 120 over 70 and he said now it's fine and he says it is due to anxiety disorder but it's fine at his or her office only at home it goes high what do you recommend.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Dear lybrate-user. Please don't worry about BP. Both 115/82 and 120/70 are within normal levels. BP will change if you record it while sitting or lying down, or checking for the second time, after climbing stairs, or thinking/talking about some critical event or after yoga/exercise/games, while resting, or tablets/food that you have taken, etc. You can take psychological therapy for your anxiety disorder from a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist, instead of checking and worrying about BP at the age of 23 yrs.
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How to get rid of anxiety and stress? How to study well by avoiding these things?

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
Hi, go for a walk in d morning to regulate your blood circulation. Go for meditation to reduce your stress & anxiety. Take, plenty of water to eliminate toxins. Your diet b easily digestible on time. Ensure, sound sleep in d night. Avoid, junk food, irritant, spicy intake. Homoeo medicine @ ignatia30-6-6 pills, thrice a day. @ kali phos 6x 4 tabs thrice a day. Take care.
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I have a memory problem. I am not able to remember things for long time. Ge could I solve this problem.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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This about behavior my gf is getting aggressive on small thing she feeling irritated of every small thing how to treat it she work in a call center.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
this the result of tension she undergoes at work or a behavioural disorder and she has to try mind control by meditation and if not successful, medication is needed
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Recently I have developed something called as alcohol intolerance (that's how Google defines my condition). After drinking alcohol I start getting irritated skin and have to continuously scratch, swelled eyes and sometimes swollen feet too. Kindly help me and give me some suggestion about how to improve my condition. Also I am not aware if I have to taken any tests aur medication. So kindly guide me.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
There is a four step process to determining if you may suffer from alcohol intolerance. Remember that only a doctor can officially diagnose you and your symptoms, but the following can help you determine if you may be suffering from alcohol intolerance. Describe symptoms keep a close eye on what symptoms you suffer around the time you have consumed alcohol. Also, be sure to know your genetic history of family members with allergies. Conduct a physical examination being carefully examined by a doctor can determine exactly what the cause may be, while dismissing other possible options. Take a skin test this is a method of testing for allergic reactions to various products, such as grains. If your skin becomes raised or starts having rashes after being pricked with a small of the product you may be allergic to you, then you will have discovered precisely what elements in an alcoholic drink you are allergic to, so you can know what to avoid. Take a blood test another test that can determine not only allergies, but also the state of your immune system, is a blood test. This type of test will look for immunoglobulin antibodies, those that fight off allergies, but it is not always an accurate test.
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What should sleeping time and sleeping patterns for medical student? Coz every student face this problem and me also that, not sleep well and not concentrated in our study and not have to remember and information related to our sallybus.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. For any student doing any professional courses, should get at least 6 hours of sleep every day. They should also get one hour physical exercise and one hour of entertainment. This way, their brain will always be active and creative. Take care.
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C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
10 Signs That You May Be Bipolar DISORDER

When it comes to mental illness, there are plenty of stereotypes. But in reality, mood disorders can be hard to pinpoint?particularly in people with bipolar disorder symptoms.
Here are 10 signs that mood problems may be due to more than a quirky or difficult personality:

Greater Than Great Mood
Bipolar disorder is characterized by up-and-down episodes of mania and depression. During a manic phase, some patients can have a total break from reality. But hypomania, which is also a symptom of the disorder, is a high-energy state in which a person feels exuberant but hasn?t lost his or her grip on reality. ?Hypomania can be a pretty enjoyable state, really,? A person?s mood can be elevated, they may have a lot of energy and creativity, and they may experience euphoria. This is the ?up? side of bipolar disorder that some people with the condition actually enjoy?while it lasts.
Inability To Complete Tasks
Having a house full of half-completed projects is a hallmark of bipolar disorder. People who can harness their energy when they are in a hypomanic phase can be really productive. Those who can?t often go from task to task, planning grand, unrealistic projects that are never finished before moving on to something else. ?They can be quite distractible and may start a million things and never finish them,?
Depression
A person who is in a bipolar depressive state is going to look just like someone who has regular depression. ?They have the same problems with energy, appetite, sleep, and focus as others who have ?plain old depression,?? Unfortunately, typical antidepressants alone don?t work well in patients who are bipolar. They can even make people cycle more frequently, worsening their condition, or send someone into a break-with-reality episode. ?Antidepressants can be downright dangerous in people with bipolar because they can send them into mania,?

Irritability
Some people with this condition suffer from ?mixed mania,? where they experience symptoms of mania and depression at the same time. During this state, they are often extremely irritable. Everyone has bad days, which is one reason this kind of bipolarity is much harder to recognize. ?We are all irritable or moody sometimes,? . ?But in people with bipolar disorder it often becomes so severe that it interferes with their relationships?especially if the person is saying, ?I don?t know why I?m so irritable?I can't control it.??
Rapid Speech
Some people are naturally talkative; we all know a motormouth or Chatty Cathy. But ?pressured speech? is one of the most common symptoms of bipolar disorder. This kind of speech occurs when someone is really not in a two-way conversation, The person will talk rapidly and if you try to speak, they will likely just talk over you. They will also sometimes jump around to different topics. ?What?s kind of a red flag is when it is atypical for the person to talk like this,? doing it only when they are in a manic cycle but not at other times,
Problems At Work
People with this disorder often have difficulty in the workplace because so many of their symptoms can interfere with their ability to show up for work, do their job, and interact productively with others. In addition to having problems completing tasks, they may have difficulty sleeping, irritability, and an inflated ego during a manic phase, and depression at other times, which causes excessive sleeping and additional mood problems. A lot of the workplace problems can be interpersonal ones,
Substance Abuse
About 50% of people with bipolar disorder also have a substance abuse problem, particularly alcohol use, . Many people will drink when they are in a manic phase to slow themselves down, and use alcohol to improve their mood when they are depressed.
Erratic Behavior
When they are in a manic phase, people with bipolar disorder can have an inflated self-esteem. ?They feel grandiose and don?t consider consequences; everything sounds good to them,? . Two of the most common types of behavior that can result from this are spending sprees and unusual sexual behavior. ?I have had a number of patients who have had affairs who never would have done that if they weren't in a manic episode?during this episode they exhibited behavior that is not consistent with what they would do normally,?
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Hello, Doctor i'm 19 years old boy. This year I got admission in graduation 1 years but whenever I think to join the enjoying group of the student I find myself different, a one thing arrives in my mind career, career, career and I sit alone and think. How can come out from this depression?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If you are unsure about your career go for career guidance counseling. You may also do an aptitude test to determine where your natural skills lie. Accordingly, you could then know what kind of occupation will be suitable for you. For the depression, you may do the following: You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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Sir I am a student but I can not get my sleep properly I want to sleep but I can not,there is a tension in my mind what should I do for this coz of this I am feeling not well so please suggest me what should I do.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, P.G.Dip.in Guidance &Counselling, B.A., Psychology, Dip.in Pharmacy
Psychologist, Madurai
Relax dear. I think you should work on your intetpersonal relationships. I mean, you should have one or more good friends to share your feelings with, spend more time with your parents and siblings and also better communications with your teachers. All these networks will certainly help you reduce your anxiety and serve as a stress buffer in many issues of life.
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I wanted to be an actress now wherever I go I fall in love with men who resemble some actors unintentionally without reciprocation and I can't do any work except thinking about them this is a repeated pattern.I won't like ordinary men so I am still single, I am 36.Victim of abuse by father n domestic violence n ill treatment by relatives n classmates. Could not study after graduation. Suffer homelessness and on injection of clopixol depot fortnight.Women generally dislike me men try to take advantage please suggest proper rehabilitation center n cure.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I think your aspiration to become an actress had failed but you may be still indulging in the fantasy of that failed desire by at least wanting to be in love with a celebrity in the film industry. Your adulation of the celebrity is to identify with their achievements and a desire to own them. These are additive in nature; to the personality and the glamour they enjoy. This failure can be very disturbing. Together with that the childhood abuse and the ill-treatment by others in life has been disquieting at the least. This has all contributed to the weight gain and to the mental disturbance. Now it is important to do the right thing first, for the mental illness, and to deal with the pain of all the abuse. Then the understanding of love and the dearth of it in your life has to be considered and the distortions cleared. It is possible that you might be mixing up sex with love, and innocuously offering it seeking love but the men take advantage of this need and hunger of yours failing to recognize the actual deprivation. You may unwittingly use seduction with males, who will fall gullibly to the guile, but that this same thing may invite the disapproval and disdain of the female companions. All this can get very complicated, if not properly understood. Your medical treatment must be supported by some psychotherapy to adequately address all the psychosocial aspects of your situation. Ideally, you should spend time in a rehabilitation center, and in residential settings to work out these issues in an intense one-to-one treatment. I have no idea of any such center in my experience so far. However, I suggest that you do the next best thing, by seeking help in an outpatient setting. I recommend you work with a female therapist before transferring to a male therapist, ideally and eventually, for a satisfactory recovery.
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Hi m 27 years old and I wanna switch my bad habits to good one but it's not working. So I just wanna know that is e-ciggrate is good from the regular one.

MBBS
General Physician, Cuttack
E cigarette is in electronic cigarette which is a battery powered device filled with liquid nicotine.. when you take a puff battery heats up and causes nicotine to vapourise which is then inhaled into the lung. it gives a sensation of in mouth and lung without smoking. it is called vaping. it can be an option to quit smoking. however it is not full proof and has many adverse effect on lung
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I become angry so fast in seconds on my brother, sister and mother. My age is 16 and I am a student. I cry so much while anger on my family members only. Please give me a quick solution for these problems, due to these problems I am little hated by my family.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello, take homoeopathic medication - schwabe's bacopa monierri 1x/ thrice daily and kali phos. 6x/ once at night - take them for 4 weeks. Management: there are few yoga poses which helps in calming your mind and relieves stress. Exercises: practice shavasana or corpse pose as it looks like a dead body. If practiced correctly and with full efforts, can relax every body part, relaxing not only the body but also the mind: spread the legs one to two feet apart, the toes are turned outwards, the heels facing each other, a comfortable distance apart. Bring the arms a little away from the body, palms turned upward. Relax the neck and allow it to turn to the side if it is more comfortable. Close the eyes and focus the attention on the body, breathing normally. Begin focusing each body part and relaxing it, then moving on. Keep the mind focused on relaxation, the breath should be normal. Relax the whole body. (the mind and body are deeply connected. If the mind is occupied by thoughts and worries then the shavasana will be unsuccessful. Therefore one has to acquire the stability of the mind along with the stability of the body.) anuloma involves inhaling through both nostrils together and exhaling each breath alternately between the left and right nostrils. The thumb of the right hand is used to manipulate the right nostril, while the pinky and ring finger are used to control the left nostril. There are many other poses of yoga like balasan, setu bandha sarvangasan, uttanasan, garudasan, savasana, triconasana, viprita karani, marjaryasana, dhyana, bhujangasana, anulom-vilum, pranayam, etc. But first learn these under a qualified yoga-teacher as many poses are prohibited in certain diseases or medical conditions! another stress-buster can be getting involved in any of your hobbies (may be a childhood hobby which you used to enjoy a lot!) - dancing, singing, painting, listening to soothing music, playing musical instruments, etc.
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Day by day I m losing my memory, forget all thing and cannot hear loud voice. What should I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are definitely under some stress and this sensitivity to loud sounds is a good indicator that your tolerance is also coming down. Although concentration is different to memory, they can affect each other. Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling.
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Do you think I have a psychological issue? Description: I have a ton of anger, my emotions change instantaneously, I'm afraid my friends are going to betray and abandon me, some days I like someone and look up to them and the next day I hate them, I feel horrible guilt after bad emotional events, and my friendships don't last because of these problems. Age: 14.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , you are just 14. You are in the process of learning life. Anger and aggression are emotions. Anger comes when you become irritated. Irritation happens when you don't like something, or when something is repeated. As anger is an emotion, it should be vent out. You should be able to throw anger out instead of controlling it. But more perfect will be, know the frustrating situations and stop being emotional. If practiced properly, you will not get irritated at those circumstances at all. Those techniques are much easier to understand. Please post a private question with all the details and I shall help you with those tips and tricks. Take care.
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Sir I'm suffering from depression due to some problems and feel like committing suicide, I can't sleep without sleeping pills, and I regularly take medicine for blood pressure because in the night time my heartbeat raises, I am a boy and I'm 22 years old

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, rising heart beat is not due to your blood pressure, but because of anxiety. Who advised you to take blood pressure medicine? Absurd. You are anxious and mostly depressed and therefore you loose your sleep. Please consult a psychiatrist.
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Hi doc I am in long distance relationship for 1 year & I had gf , she loves me no doubt but what I find after 5-6 month she had a habit of flirting back to other guys. I told her about this many times , she promised me not to repeat again but things get repeated (she told me also that she feel good when some strangers give importance ) Now due to this I don't concentrate on my job also with soo many ideas on my mind. (Sometime I used to think It was better to live life as a single ) This incident make me less attracted towards her & some time I feel I should have hookups outside this relationship. & I am scared due to this frustration I might cheat on her which I don't wanted to do. Looking forward for some tremendous help from you people.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
That she has admitted to flirting and has gone back on her promises to stay faithful are not good signs. She has also admitted to wanting attention and that she gravitates towards people who give her importance is concerning in the long run. It is very difficult to keep tabs on someone in a long-distance relationship. Trust is a very important factor in relationships anyway and this must be respected and honored. So all in all, it sounds like this relationship is going the wrong way and I am afraid that you may not be able to rely on her. But to make a decision on the basis of this one person to stay single is pushing it too far. Never let a person do that to you. Besides, you have not even met her and I suspect that you have a tendency to go overboard in relationships for whatever reason. This is a vulnerable trait in you and needs to be worked upon with a counselor. Also, you do not fight fire with fire i. E. By trying to compete with her infidelity you are making matters worse. Either you wait and see how she is when you meet her or call it quits and move on with your life. The signs are not good no doubt but it is not so bad that you need to give up on your life and its future for such an individual.
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What a guy can do to focus on his studies. If he is attracted by too many things.?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you must be able to understand concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please post a private question to me and I will help you with" effective learning" techniques. Take care.
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