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Dr. Arun Gupta

MD - Psychiatry, DNB

Psychiatrist, Delhi

11 Years Experience
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Dr. Arun Gupta is an experienced Psychiatrist in Shalimar Bagh, Delhi. He has had many happy patients in his 11 years of journey as a Psychiatrist. He is a MD - Psychiatry, DNB . You can meet Dr. Arun Gupta personally at Max Hospital-Shalimar Bagh in Shalimar Bagh, Delhi. Book an appointment online with Dr. Arun Gupta on Lybrate.com.

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MD - Psychiatry - NIMHANS bangalore, - 2006
DNB - - 2008
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I was a very bright student till high school and now I'm in college. I can't score like I used to and I feel very depressed because of my failures. I can't make myself and others happy and don't fit anywhere. I feel weird about myself.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I was a very bright student till high school and now I'm in college. I can't score like I used to and I feel very dep...
College life is different. You might need some more time to adjust to the new enviornment and new subjects, new teachers etc. It is also important to see if you have chosen the subject/stream of your choice. If you do not find the subjects interesting it will be difficult for you to score good marks. Don't compare yourself with anyone else. Do not fall under parental or peer pressure. Set your own, realistic goals and try to achieve them. Also understand that failures are part of our lives. Your failures do not make you worthless. Do not worry about what others think about you. Have faith in your abilities and keep trying consistently. All the best.
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I unable to give attention to any work. Sad thinkings come to mind. It seems that my sharp brain has been blocked. Please help how I control my mind.

BHMS
Homeopath, Secunderabad
Nothing to worry , because of excessive feeling of stress and anxiety these symptoms will develop. Better to take homoeopathy medicines to reduce these symptoms permanently. Avoid sugary food and take vitamin d foods like fish, milk; omega 3 fatty acids like nuts along with medicines. You may consult a homeopath.
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Schizophrenia - Common Problems Faced By A Person Suffering From It!

MS - Psychotherapy & Counselling
Psychologist, Chennai
Schizophrenia - Common Problems Faced By A Person Suffering From It!

Schizophrenia is a very serious psychological disorder which influences how a person feels, thinks, acts and reacts. A patient suffering from schizophrenia may experience issues recognising what is real and what is nonexistent; might be lethargic or unresponsive, and may experience issues communicating ordinary feelings in social situations.

The reason for schizophrenia is still hazy. A few theories and speculations about the reason for this disorder include genes (hereditary qualities), biology of the body (the unevenness in the brain’s functioning); or persistent viral infections and immune disorders. Some of the problems faced by schizophrenics are as follows:

  1. Delusions: People may feel that somebody is keeping an eye on him or her, or that they are somebody well known and famous.
  2. Development and movement problems: These include behaving in a strange manner, pacing around, posturing or shaking forward and backwards for no reason.
  3. Thought issue: Jumping from one topic to another in an unreasonable manner is also one of the symptoms or challenges of this condition. People may make up their own particular words or sounds.
  4. Hallucinating: Seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing or feeling something that does not generally exist. The most widely recognised symptom is listening to nonexistent voices that give orders or commands to the patients.
  5. Absence of feelings and emotions: An irregular feeling or expression may be experienced. For instance, crying at a joke when a typical reaction would be to laugh at it.

Despite these, some of the other very common problems faced by schizophrenic patients are as follows:

  1. Social withdrawal from family and friends
  2. Problems affecting in the ordinary exercises of life, for example, at work or school
  3. Poor hygiene and lack of cleanliness
  4. Mental shock
  5. Loss of proper sentence formation
  6. Issues deciding
  7. Overlooking or losing things
  8. Issues understanding ordinary sights, sounds, and sentiments.
  9. Moving rapidly starting with one thought then onto the next.
  10. Pacing and strolling in circles
  11. Unreasonable written work, yet without any meaning.

A person with schizophrenia is twice as likely to end up diabetic or experience the ill effects of the chronic obstructive pneumonia disease (COPD) than the general population. Individuals with schizophrenia regularly commit the normal error of attempting to overlook the sickness thinking that it does not exist.

Schizophrenia has crushed a considerable amount of lives throughout the years. The indications of schizophrenia can be exceptionally scary and unnerving. There are different treatment techniques that one can access to improve the lives of the people who experience the ill effects of schizophrenia. Treatment of schizophrenia has, however essentially enhanced throughout the years, and there is no motivation to trust that it will not keep on doing so. In case that you or someone close to you has schizophrenia, look for treatment in light of the fact that your odds of recovery are good and your odds of change are great. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychologist.

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Suffering From Mental And Physical Stress? Try Homeopathy

BHMS
Homeopath, Jaipur
Suffering From Mental And Physical Stress? Try Homeopathy

For the past two centuries, Homeopaths have concentrated on the interconnection between psychology and physiology. It has been known for long that Homeopathy has no side effects on a person's overall health and thus, it should be implemented in curing mental and physical stress. Mental stress may result from a person's coping skills. You may respond to stress in a wrong way and this further complicates your situation.

You may fail to control your instinctive reactions. Medications in Homeopathy can actually remedy disorders regarding stress management. In many cases, it has been noticed that a physiological disease has a psychological impetus to itself. For instance, people falling under the 'Type A personality' category are more susceptible to heart problems. Their heart problems can be serious enough to make them undergo bypass surgeries. 

An operation can be avoided, if only reasons behind problems at the surface are understood. Patients belonging to the 'Type A personality' category can suffer from 'hurry sickness' with symptoms like bouts of anger, impatience, aggression and hurriedness. These factors together enhance the risk of having heart problems later in life.

The following medicines tackle disorders without any side effects:

  1. Homeopaths advise you to take Aconitum napellus to reduce physical stress. Aconite napellus is known to treat problems such as a dry mouth, an irritable skin, a pounding heart and so on so forth. This can even cure problems resulting from a traumatic episode in past.
  2. Another Homeopathic medicine prescribed to deal with anxieties about future is Arsenicum album. If you have fears about your safety, about certainty or about what future has in store for you, this medicine can help you out.
  3. The medicine Phosphorus is known to treat fears of being alone. Many people are afraid of being alone. They need company all the time. Phosphorus also tackles common fears, such as fear of thunderstorms, fear of the dark or fear of ghosts for that matter.
  4. People facing anxieties about health or anxieties about death often evade sleeping at night. They hallucinate and see apparitions. Mental stress therefore, leads to physical stress. Kali- arsenicosum is one Homeopathic medicine to take care of such problems.

Homeopathy as an alternative branch of medicine, which comes to your relief without causing other bodily problems during the course of treatment. Hence, to fight mental or physical stress you must try out Homeopathy.

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I am a thine boy. I can't want to eat anything. For the reason I can't concentrate my study. When I go to toilet I can't evacuation. My evacuation don't regularly. So please help me what I do?

BHMS
Homeopath, Thane
Hi, If the food you eat is not properly digested and absorbed then how can you gain weight.Nothing will work if this is not proper. Take *Alfa malt forte (medisynth) 1tablespoon to be taken twice a day during meals for 1mth *Take GRD Powder 1tablespoon in 1 cup of milk ,drink once a day This will help in regulating your bowel movements .
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I am suffering from last 3 yr. So i m totally depressed and hopeless about my physical condition. Anybody help me.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
You need to give more details to get a suitable response. Please meet a doctor who can treat you for your condition. You can also meet a counsellor in your city and talk about your depression and hopelessness. That will help you to become aware about yourself and discover reasons to feel hopeful and positive again.
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I lost some weight close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please help me.

BAMS
Ayurveda, Ambala
I lost some weight close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time.
Plea...
Follow these best methods to easily gain weight and get a healthy body - * to gain weight, first take a diet rich with proteins and fats. You should take high calories food that increase your muscle mass and induce growth in bones. Follow the diet chart in your daily life to fastly gain weight * in morning, take a glass of milk added with 2 teaspoons of bournvita or complan powder with breakfast. * after 2 hours of breakfast, take 2 bananas or a bowl of boiled soyabeans. To increase your hunger & proper digestion of food - take 10 gms powder of carom seeds (ajwain, 10 gm powder of cumin (jeera), 10 gm of rock salt. Mix them well and take 1/2 teaspoon (3-5 gm) of mixture daily after lunch * in lunch time, take 1 bowl of curd or 100 gm of cheese, a bowl of vegetable, with chapattis. You can take 2 bowl of careals (moong/chana daal) on the place of curd or cheese. * in evening, take 1 glass of milk (300 ml) with 10-12 pieces of dry fruits or 3-4 pieces of dates (khajoor). * in night, take a bowl of careals (daal, a bowl of salad with chapattis. 3. In morning, get up early and take awalk for 10-15 minutes and exercise light weight exercises for at least 30 minutes at home or gym. Exercise is very important so that muscles gain mass from the heathy diet. 4. For proper weight, proper sleep is very important. So you should sleep for 6-8 hours daily. 5. Avoid smoking & alcohol drinkg completely. I assure you that you definitely gain weight fastly by following them. Be healthy you can consult me privately for your doubts and more detailed treatment.
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How we can do a best relationship in married life with our partner, also physical relationship for a good and healthy life journey.

Advance Course in Neuro linguistic Programming, Diploma In Dyslexic Studies, Masters In Psychological Counselling
Psychologist, Mumbai
Each and every relationship has a little bit of give and take. When each partner say's" I will give a little bit more than the other" and work towards satisfying the need of the other a beautiful relationship is born. We turn towards trust to our creator because he only gives us. Such has to be our giving in out most intimate relationship.
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Hi, I took a combination of ibuprofen 400mg and paracetamol 325 mg to get relief from body pain. But now I'm having uncomfortable feeling in stomach, which does not seem to relate to motion. Is this acidity/gastric trouble due to high dosage? What should I do.

MBBS, cc USG
General Physician, Gurgaon
Hi, I took a combination of ibuprofen 400mg and paracetamol 325 mg to get relief from body pain. But now I'm having u...
It seems to be due to acidity due to painkiller you can take(if no drug allergy): Tablet Pantocid 40 mg before food once a day for 2-3 days Consult if symptom persist
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Hi I am 48 years old male. Healthy wt 78 kg. Pls tell me what foods will help me increase my memory. Thanks.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear user, Avocados. This fruit is one of the healthiest ones you can consume and one of my all-time favorites. Beets..Blueberries. Bone Broth. Broccoli..Celery. Coconut Oil. Dark Chocolate. Etc. These foods can improve your memory power and help brain. Take care.
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Hello doctor. I have a problem that most of the time i am lost in my own world and my heart its really heavy, I feel like crying and I don't feel like interacting with any body. I like being alone and i think because of this only my BP goes low. Is there any thing that i can do to get over from this.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I have not known of anyone having low BP because of feeling alone or feeling like crying. Kindly check that out with a physician. You may be having the symptoms of grief-related depression. Which may be the cause of your loneliness or vice versa, the loneliness may be causing the depression. You need to examine with a counselor what is this grief all about, when did it start, and to do something about it. You may feel that it is embarrassing to talk about it and this can lead to a sense of lonely withdrawal. It seems to also cause your daydreaming state, and this should not be ignored for too long. I always recommend that one should be comfortable being alone, as long as it is not done to avoid people. In this case I suspect it is shying away from others because of your discomfort. If you need to weep, do so with someone. People will appreciate this, and will support you too. Do regular exercises, it is the best holistic medicine. Meet people, attend group meetings, join a club, eat well, and sleep well to slowly get yourself out of this state. When you are with people, you can never get lost in your own world that easily. If this does not work out, meet a counselor and take it from there.
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Nowadays I am very dull, I am not getting interest to speak with anyone, not interested to go to office, not getting interest at anything, feeling comfortable if I sleep alone. Earlier I was not like this. All are telling that I am changed, even I am feeling the same, what is the cause, situation,and solution for this.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
You seem to be suffering most likely from Depression, kindly consult a psychiatrist, get evaluated for the severity and based on the assessment treatment would be suggested. Don't worry recovery in most cases is good and quick. All the best.
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Avoid Alcoholism

MBBS
General Physician, Indore

How to avoid alcoholism

Alcoholism can easily sneak up on you if you aren't careful. When your social life revolves around going to bars or there's a keg party every weekend, it's hard to keep things under control. Changing your routine and making a serious plan to cut back on your consumption is a good way to start. If the time comes when you think you've crossed the line from casual drinking to alcohol abuse, it's time to seek outside help. If you follow a few simple steps, you can learn more about how to reign in your drinking habit before alcoholism becomes a reality.

Part one of three:
Reducing the amount you drink


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Keep alcohol out of your house. It's a lot easier for alcohol to become a daily, insidious habit if you always keep it within reach. If your liquor cabinet is always stocked, you can easily be tempted. If there is a half-drunk bottle of wine or a six pack is chilling in the fridge, it's going to be tough to avoid drinking. The first step to avoiding alcoholism is to keep it out of your house when it's not serving an immediate social purpose. If you don't want to stop drinking but just cut back to a healthy amount, not surrounding yourself with it is a good place to start. Stock your kitchen with other tasty drinks you can substitute for alcohol when you want something comforting to drink. Tea, sparkling water, lemonade, root beer, and soda are better for you than alcohol.
If you have a party and there's a lot of leftover alcohol, give it away to friends. If no one wants it, pour it down the drain. Don't get trapped into thinking you have to finish it because you don't want it to go to waste.



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Don't drink when you're feeling bad. Drinking when you're bored, lonely, stressed, sad, or feeling any other negative emotion can lead to a dependency on alcohol. Since alcohol is a depressant, it can actually make things even worse. Try drinking only on social occasions, when everyone's having a good time and there's a reason to celebrate. Don't fall into the trap of making every day a day to celebrate. Make sure you save drinking for truly special occasions when someone has something worthy of celebration.


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Slow down your sipping. If you tend to guzzle your drinks, you'll be more likely to drink too much on any given evening. Slow yourself down by sipping your drinks slowly, taking more time to finish each drink. You can help this by ordering your drinks straight, so the taste of sweet mixers doesn't mask the alcohol and make you think you aren't drinking any. You should also drink a glass of water or a soft drink for every alcoholic drink you consume. Drinking water will help fill you up and keep you hydrated. You will be less likely to guzzle drinks if you are properly hydrated and feel fuller. Do not engage in beer drinking contests or any activity that involves chugging excessive amounts of alcohol in a short period of time.



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Stop going to bars as often. Since the purpose of bars is to sell drinks, you're automatically going to feel pressured to buy one. The low lights, the smell of alcohol mixed with perfume and cologne, and the sexy vibe everyone's exuding present an atmosphere that may be hard to resist. Since the whole environment is geared towards drinking, it's best to avoid bars altogether when you're trying to cut back.
If you're invited to a social function that takes place at a bar, like happy hour with your boss and coworkers, try ordering a club soda or another nonalcoholic drink. If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging. When you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.


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Do activities that don't involve drinking. People spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking. This will not only make you cut back on your drinking, it will make you healthier overall by getting you more active.


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Hang out with people who don't drink. Some people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun. This may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.


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Take up exercising. Exercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress. Try signing up for a 5k or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best. Along with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.



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Recognize withdrawal symptoms. If you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams. If you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.
 

One of my friends bf wants to do sex with her. But she do not want to do it before their marriage. Thats the reason their relationship are in a very bad condition. Her bf always upset .he starts ignoring her. What she can do .to save their relationship.& she is virgin too. So she is little bit scared to do sex. Suggest some solution.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology
Psychologist, Bangalore
hi, Ask your friend to talk to him and understand what sex really means to him, listen to him patiently acknowledging his frustration along with explaining to him about her concern and why the decision is important for her. If your friends bf really loves her then he will have regard for her concern and will be supportive and understanding. But if he is continuing his distancing and hurting behaviour then she needs to consider whether she's willing to bear with such kind of forceful and manipulative behaviour for rest of her life or she can look for other options .
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I am 28 years old. I am facing some health related issue, when I am sleeping at my bed suddenly I feel dizziness in my head, but when I wake up or open my eye's it things become ok. It specifically happen when I try to sleep facing my left side. Certain times it feels like my heart beat and breath frequency arises very high. I am getting very scared and do not go for sleep any more. It is happening almost from the last 9 months. It really irritates me. Could you please suggest if it is something really very bad. Thanks,

PGDPC
Psychologist, Pune
I am  28 years old. I am facing some health related issue, when I am sleeping at my bed suddenly I feel dizziness in ...
Dear lybrate user, nice of you to share your concerns bed time is a time for relaxation. If you do have any issues of concern think of them and an how to deal with them before you go to bed. Say a prayer or sit in silence for 5 minutes when you feel totally relaxed then go to bed. A good nights sleep is important for physical, emotional and mental well being. Do consult a medical doctor for the physical symptoms mentioned. Wishing you all the best.
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I feel too much fear when I do any work like study, journey.what is wrong with me?

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I feel too much fear when I do any work like study, journey.what is wrong with me?
Dear Lybrate User, Nothing is wrong with you. You are underconfident. Probably you never got a chance to take a challenge and prove yourself. I think you were not appreciated by elders at home, while growing up. As a result you have low self confidence. You are probably having very high expectations from yourself. Focus on your strengths. Do some physical exercise which will make your body stronger. Do some rituals that your believe, which will help you to have stronger mind. Take care
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How To Deal With Someone Who Is Suffering From Depression

Consultant Dyslexia, Autism & Child Psychologist. Consultant Clinical & Mental Health Psychologist., Post Masters Doc in Behavioural Medicine , Post Masters Doc Psychology
Psychologist, Noida
How To Deal With Someone Who Is Suffering From Depression

Depression is an addictive state, which is hard to get rid of. Everybody who suffers from it encounters it in an unexpected way, yet we all agree that it can be a major well-being issue. It makes a person miserable, disappointed, restless or numb for long and tedious timeframes, and is debilitating, particularly when you can't demonstrate your feelings and worries to anybody. It can meddle with your productivity and can become a concern not only in workplaces, but also in social circles.

So here's how to deal with a friend or family member in a depressed state of mind:

  1. Never Say 'You're Too Much': When someone with depression is told "you're too much," particularly by somebody near them, it can send them spiralling into blame and nervousness and bitterness. Being encouraging and empowering is likewise useful.
  2. Try not to Shame People for Being Negative: Dejection changes the world into a scene of pessimism. Discouraged individuals don't just focus on the negatives, but they also disregard the positives.
  3. Do Understand That Depression Doesn't Mean "Trouble": Melancholy is a condition with an assortment of side effects like exhaustion, confused mind state and rest issues. These are all side effects of melancholy. Crabbiness is an exceptionally basic side effect, which once in a while is encountered by many individuals, and can lead to an expanded sensitivity. Normally, it's difficult to be sympathetic with someone who is behaving grumpily. But you need to make a conscious effort to still see the positive in depressed individuals and lead them to hope.
  4. Do Validate: Approval can help manage a depressed state, and can wean a friend or family member out of depression. Remember that someone with dejection is not living in the same universe as you. The laws that oversee your universe don't exist in theirs.

Depressed individuals require your understanding, your empathy, and your affection,  considerably more when they are having a troublesome day, week or month. It is hard, but possible. Discouraged individuals value a positive backing in particular.

Related Tip: "How To Recognize Depression In Adults"

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I want to start taking revital. What is the best tym to take revital. I want to concentrate in study. revital will help or not?

MD - Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath, Vadodara
The best time is in morning... it will help.. but you may also take homoeopathic medicine Gingko Biloba Q.
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I am 21 and I have a boyfriend from college. We are very happy now. But something's from past gets in mind once in a while. My boyfriend has a girl best friend who is not too close to people. Last year my boyfriend went to a college tour. She got too close and cozy to him during it. He dint bother as he is always open to friends. When they returned I heard of them and got really angry with him. I thought she was emotionally close to him. But she also started to be physically close, holding hands while walking, sitting etc. And even talking of it. So after I heard of it and got angry he said it was not anything bad and he just allowed best friends as they should be. Later the month when that girl was more talking to another friend, my boyfriend got sad thinking that their friendship was fading. He got angry to her little .when she asked why, he said he didn't wanted to lose her best friendship and that he was possessive of her love and care she gave him. She convinced him that no one could take his place. He wanted her friendship back and they talked that way being emotional sent and all. When I told him to limit his friendship with her he said he wouldn't leave her friend as he is equally important to him as I am .I an his girl friend and she is his best friend. That hurted me to hear that he was too attached with his best friend . Later I got depressed and once I saw his chats with her during their friendship re union and all, I hated him .and got sad. He also got sad for making me sad. And said he didn't wanted to be selfish. His friends are friends. Nothing more. And he wanted them. Later due to my complaining he reduced his friendship. She also understood. Now we are hapy. But I thought I was mean even though I was hurt. So I told him he could be best friends again. He was happy to hear. I want to forget that memory of those days when they occur sometimes now. I want to forgive her and let her out of mind.

B.A. Psychology, M.A. Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
I am 21 and I have a boyfriend from college. We are very happy now. But something's from past gets in mind once in a ...
The past looms over us - especially the bad memories. No need to be guilty of being selfish - in all relationships, clear boundaries need to be laid down right from the beginning, so that there are no misunderstandings later on. So, what you did was absolutely right. As for the memories disturbing you, focus on where you want to take your relationship from here - it is always our choice what we want to remember from the past - if you remember the sweet memories they will grow bigger in your mind. To forgive her, all you have to do is relax, take a few deep breaths, close your eyes and while releasing your breath, say to yourself i'm free, I free you. And forgive her. The anger will only come back, if you think about that episode negatively, if you see it like any other incident, then it will not hurt you.
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I am feeling very stressful because of my workload. What should I have to feel stress free.

M.Phil - Psychology
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am feeling very stressful because of my workload. What should I have to feel stress free.
You are feeling stress because your are unable to divide your time between personal life and professional life. I understand that the work demands more from you. But you should understand that your brain and body needs some rest so that it can re gains its energy levels. Firstly, don't take tension of work completion, and use your time peacefully and plan things. You get better ideas when you are not disturbed. Try to take time out of your busy schedule to relax yourself. Maybe you can go out for a movie, dinner or just family or friends outing. Just take few hour from your busy schedule. You will see things will change and you can work better and happily.
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