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Khosbagan Burdwan
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Our medical care facility offers treatments from the best doctors in the field of Clinical Psychologist.Our mission is to blend state-of-the-art medical technology & research with a dedic......more
Our medical care facility offers treatments from the best doctors in the field of Clinical Psychologist.Our mission is to blend state-of-the-art medical technology & research with a dedication to patient welfare & healing to provide you with the best possible health care.
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J.M. Doctors Clinic is known for housing experienced Psychologists. Dr. Saptarshi Adhikari, a well-reputed Psychologist, practices in Burdwan. Visit this medical health centre for Psychologists recommended by 67 patients.

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Sleep Wake Disorder - Irregular Sleeping Patterns

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Sleep Wake Disorder - Irregular Sleeping Patterns

Sleep-Wake Disorder is a very uncommon syndrome which causes irregular sleeping patterns without any real schedule.

Causes
Persons with brain malfunctioning and those who do not have a regular routine during the day experience such disorders. People with changing work shifts often experience such disorder. Also, travellers who often move from one country to another with different time zones may also have these symptoms.
There's no cure for this disorder, but treatments, including hormones, medicine, and light therapy, can help get you closer to a normal sleeping pattern.

Symptoms

Symptoms may include any of the following:

  1. Sleeping or napping more than usual during the day
  2. Trouble falling asleep and staying asleep at night
  3. Waking up often during the night

Exams and Tests
A person must have at least three abnormal sleep-wake episodes during a 24-hour period to be diagnosed with this problem. The time between each such episode varies from 1 to 4 hours. The doctor may advise you to go ahead with a device called actigraph in case the diagnosis is unclear. The device looks like a wristwatch, and it can tell when a person is sleeping or awake.

Treatment
Though there is no simple cure for irregular sleep-wake syndrome, however, several therapies and lifestyle changes may help a person return to a normal sleep-wake cycle. These include:

  1. A regular daytime schedule of activities and mealtimes need to be fixed.
  2. You should not stay in bed during the day for long.
  3. Use bright light therapy in the morning like those from computer screens and television. The period of exposure should also be increased. Exposure to blue light should be minimized at night.
  4. You should take melatonin at bedtime. This is a hormone that controls the sleep-wake cycle. By taking doses at the right times, you might be able to shift your body clock earlier or later.
  5. Make sure to make the room dark, quiet, and as comfortable as possible at night.
  6. Also one should try to minimize the amount of noise in the sleep environment.
  7. Add more structure to the patient’s day by scheduling social interaction, exercise, and other activities.
  8. Your doctor may prescribe drug to control the timing of the sleep-wake cycle.

Finally, you should take proper care of yourself. Make positive changes in your lifestyle. You can even ask your boss to make your work schedule a bit flexible.

The ultimate goal of these lifestyle changes is to help the person sleep longer at night and make him feel active and awake during the day. Most people have sleep disturbances on occasion. But you need to consult a doctor if such sleep disorders occur regularly.

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14 Tips to Quit Smoking

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata

1. Find your reason

To get motivated, you need a powerful, personal reason to quit. It may be to protect your family from secondhand smoke. Or lower your chance of getting lung cancer, heart disease, or other conditions. Or to look and feel younger. Choose a reason that is strong enough to outweigh the urge to light up.

2. Prepare before you go “cold turkey”

There’s more to it than just tossing your cigarettes out. Smoking is an addiction. The brain is hooked on nicotine. Without it, you’ll go through withdrawal. Line up support in advance. Ask your doctor about all the methods than will help, such as quit-smoking classes and apps, counseling, medication, and hypnosis. You’ll be ready for the day you choose to quit. 

3. Consider nicotine-replacement therapy

When you stop smoking, nicotine withdrawal may give you headaches, affect your mood, or sap your energy. The craving for “just one drag” is tough. Nicotine-replacement therapy can curb these urges. Studies show that nicotine gum, lozenges, and patches improve your chances of success when you’re also in a quit-smoking program. 

4. Learn about prescription pills

Medicines can curb cravings and may also make smoking less satisfying if you do pick up a cigarette. Other drugs can ease withdrawal symptoms, such as depression or problems with concentration.

5. Lean on your loved ones

Tell your friends, family, and other people you’re close to that you’re trying to quit. They can encourage you to keep going, especially when you’re tempted to light up. You can also join a support group or talk to a counselor. “behavioral therapy” is a type of counseling that helps you identify and stick to quit-smoking strategies. Even a few sessions may help. 

6. Give yourself a break

One reason people smoke is that the nicotine helps them relax. Once you quit, you’ll need new ways to unwind. There are many options. You can exercise to blow off steam, tune in to your favorite music, connect with friends, treat yourself to a massage, or make time for a hobby. Try to avoid stressful situations during the first few weeks after you stop smoking.

7. Avoid alcohol and other triggers

When you drink, it’s harder to stick to your no-smoking goal. So try to limit alcohol when you first quit. Likewise, if you often smoke when you drink coffee, switch to tea for a few weeks. If you usually smoke after meals, find something else to do instead, like brushing your teeth, taking a walk, texting a friend, or chewing gum.

8. Clean house

Once you’ve smoked your last cigarette, toss all of your ashtrays and lighters. Wash any clothes that smell like smoke, and clean your carpets, draperies, and upholstery. Use air fresheners to get rid of that familiar scent. If you smoked in your car, clean it out, too. You don’t want to see or smell anything that reminds you of smoking.

9. Lean on your loved ones

Tell your friends, family, and other people you’re close to that you’re trying to quit. They can encourage you to keep going, especially when you’re tempted to light up. You can also join a support group or talk to a counselor. “behavioral therapy” is a type of counseling that helps you identify and stick to quit-smoking strategies. Even a few sessions may help. 

10. Give yourself a break

One reason people smoke is that the nicotine helps them relax. Once you quit, you’ll need new ways to unwind. There are many options. You can exercise to blow off steam, tune in to your favorite music, connect with friends, treat yourself to a massage, or make time for a hobby. Try to avoid stressful situations during the first few weeks after you stop smoking.

11. Avoid alcohol and other triggers

When you drink, it’s harder to stick to your no-smoking goal. So try to limit alcohol when you first quit. Likewise, if you often smoke when you drink coffee, switch to tea for a few weeks. If you usually smoke after meals, find something else to do instead, like brushing your teeth, taking a walk, texting a friend, or chewing gum.

12. Clean house

Once you’ve smoked your last cigarette, toss all of your ashtrays and lighters. Wash any clothes that smell like smoke, and clean your carpets, draperies, and upholstery. Use air fresheners to get rid of that familiar scent. If you smoked in your car, clean it out, too. You don’t want to see or smell anything that reminds you of smoking.
13. Get moving

Being active can curb nicotine cravings and ease some withdrawal symptoms. When you want to reach for a cigarette, put on your inline skates or jogging shoes instead. Even mild exercise helps, such as walking your dog or pulling weeds in the garden. The calories you burn will also ward off weight gain as you quit smoking.

14. Eat fruits and veggies

Don’t try to diet while you give up cigarettes. Too much deprivation can easily backfire. Instead, keep things simple and try to eat more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein. These are good for your whole body.

15. Choose your reward

In addition to all the health benefits, one of the perks of giving up cigarettes is all the money you will save. There are online calculators that figure out how much richer you will be. Reward yourself by spending part of it on something fun.

16. Remember that time is on your side

As soon as you quit, you start to get immediate health benefits. After only 20 minutes, your heart rate goes back to normal. Within a day, your blood’s carbon monoxide level also falls back into place. In just 2-3 weeks, you will start to lower your odds of having a heart attack. In the long run, you will also lower your chance of getting lung cancer and other cancers.

Is Your Loved One Suffering From Depression? Know How to Handle Them!

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Is Your Loved One Suffering From Depression? Know How to Handle Them!

Depression is such an ailment that may be intensely distressing and may lead to severe damage to the afflicted person and their close ones, if left without proper care and treatment. So if you are in charge of caring for patients affected with chronic depression, then it may seem challenging as well as equally rewarding. You will feel challenged when you're trying to figure out a possible solution to help the patient. Each patient is a distinct individual with varying needs contrary to the patients affected with diabetes or cardiac disorders where the treatments are properly schemed and structured.

Caring for yourself is also important-

When you are trying to deal with patients affected with depression, you will first have to properly recognize depression and anxiety. When someone you love is affected with depression, you will try your level best to help that person come out of the situation. However, note that it is also important to take care of your own mental as well as physical health. Because when you are trying to help a person come out of depression, it is likely that you too would face similar psychological distress. A recent study reported that caregivers of depressed people with bipolar disorder and severe depressive problems were more susceptible to psychological troubles than care providers of other healthcare needs like diabetes or cancer among general population. So it is really imperative to look after yourself as well.

Sticking to a well-regulated treatment plan-

Though social support is significant, it alone cannot help in suppressing depression. If you know a person encountering pangs of depression, advise him or her to seek professional assistance. Depression is such a clinical condition that requires to be dealt with medication, therapy or a balanced combination of both. You will have to make them understand that you care about them, but you alone cannot succeed in healing that person without proper medical guidance. Encourage such people to closely follow a physician’s advice and take proper medicines as recommended by the healthcare provider.

Insisting on following healthy habits-

You will have to try to encourage the patients in regulating their energies into doing something positive for both mind and body. This can be aptly done through exercise, which helps in lowering the risk of anxiety as well as depression with regular practice. This, along with the intake of a healthy balanced diet would also help them to recover faster.

While doing your bit to aid a person come out of depression, you should also take him or her to a responsive psychologist who can recommend faster methods of getting rid of depression permanently.

I do not want my gf to indulge with friends too much. I feel too much anger. Which results in crying. And I also want to suicide. I tried to change but I cannot. What should I do doctor. I love my gf more than my life.

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Hello dear, stop overpossessing. It leads to relationship breaks. Love is build with trust. If you itself feel insecure then why you committed? Stop all these behaviours. I think your relationship should need a free space.
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What is the caste why parents were strong on it. How to convey them more than that only love can make life happy and healthy relationship?

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Hello lybrate-user caste and creed are created by society. Nothing to worry about it. If you love your partner genuinely and he too loves you genuinely, then don't think too much, go ahead.
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Am 25 year old, am getting attracted towards the same sex, is everything fine with me?

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Am 25 year old, am getting attracted towards the same sex, is everything fine with me?
Attracted towards same sex is not a criminal offence dear. Are you satisfied with your orientation? if yes, then it is absolutely fine. But remember one thing, is your would be partner enough faithful to you? be aware.
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What are the symptoms of depression and what can we do during we feel depression.

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
What are the symptoms of depression and what can we do during we feel depression.
Symptoms of depression are low mood loss of interest feeling guilty low self esteem poor concentration forgetfulness loss/gain of weight insomnia/hypersomnia loss of energy loss of libido ideas of hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness suicidal ideation and attempts loss of appetite management. If you are severely depressed, then, immediately consult with a psychiatrist and a clinical psychologist.
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Am very silent person, I don't talk too much. Is der any medicine to make me talkative.

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Am very silent person, I don't talk too much. Is der any medicine to make me talkative.
Dear. Why do you want to change your habit? sorry there is no medicines to make one talkative. I think you should accept yourself as you are. Have faith in you. Don't indulge in unfair comparison.
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Psychologist, Kolkata
stay healthy and well. wishing all of you a very happy new year.

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata

How to Increase Concentration While Studying
Concentrating while studying can be hard, especially when the study material isn't one of your favorite topics. While studying has never been the most exciting aspects of school, it doesn't have to be the drag that it is made out to be. With a sense of determination, and implementing some effecting study techniques, even the dullest subjects can be conquered with maintaining concentration during a study session.

Preparing to Concentrate While Studying
1
Find an appropriate study environment. Generally, it is a good idea to eliminate distractions as much as possible while studying, so you can concentrate on what's in front of you. You want to find a place that is aesthetically pleasing and comfortable for you.
Find a quiet area, such as a private room or a library. If you like fresh air, go outside to an area that is reasonably free of distractions, and somewhere where you can still connect to internet, if need be.
Keep in mind that everyone has their own studying environment preferences. While some prefer to study in quiet, others thrive in a bustling environment that mimics white noise.
If you don’t know your studying preferences, experiment in different areas, studying in a group or studying solo, studying with or without music, etc. Your ability to concentrate and be productive in different environments will reveal itself rather quickly.

2
Gather all of your studying materials. Your studying materials include things like notes, textbooks, study guides, papers, highlighters, or anything else you might need to concentrate and be productive while studying; this includes a snack like a granola bar or nuts, and a bottle of water.[1]
All your materials should be within arm's reach so you don’t disrupt yourself by going to retrieve your things when you’re in the zone, studying.

3
Clear a study space. Clear away anything materials you don't need to study, and keep your space organized to reduce stress and allow for better concentration. Having any materials around you that don’t direct contribute to your concentration only serve as potential distractions.
This includes throwing away food containers, paper garbage, and other miscellaneous items.

4
Unplug from unnecessary electronics. Turn off any electronics that you don't need, especially cell phones, music listening devices, and perhaps computers (provided you don't need a computer to study your material).
Your laptop or computer could serve as a huge source of distraction when you’re trying to concentrate.

5
Stick to a routine. Arrange a schedule for study time, and keep with it. This allows you to build studying time into a habit, making you more likely to follow through on study plans. Be aware of your energy levels throughout the day. Are you more energetic (and therefore more able to concentrate) during the day or nighttime?[2] It may help to study your harder subjects when you have the most energy.
Once you know the time of day that you’re more energetic, you can make sure you study during those times, increasing your ability to focus and concentrate on your work.

6
Find a study partner. Sometimes reviewing material with someone else can help break up the monotony of studying, clarify confusing concepts by bouncing ideas off of someone else, and see things from a different perspective. This partner can help you keep on track with your studies, and concentrate on the task in front of you.
Some people may find study partners distracting. When looking for a study partner, try to find someone who is sensible and focused, maybe even more of an active student in class than you are. That way, you are always pushing yourself to stay matched with them.

7
Think of an incentive. Before you start studying, think of something that can serve as a reward for you successfully studying. For example, after reviewing your history notes for 1 hour, talk to your roommate about your day, make dinner, or watch your favorite upcoming television program.[3] An incentive can motivate you to concentrate on studying for a specific amount of time, and then you reward yourself for your solid block of time concentrating on your work.
For bigger projects, develop a bigger incentive to reward yourself for your extra hard work.
Maintaining Concentration While Studying

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Find an effective study method. Finding an effecting study method that suits you can help you stay concentrated while studying. Again, every person studies differently, so you will have to experiment and find a method that works best for you to maintain focus. Essentially, the more ways you can experience and interact with what you’re learning, the better your chances will be of staying on task and absorbing what you’re reviewing.[5] Sometimes, simply reviewing readings, notes, or quizzes can serve as an effective way to study, but some other study methods include:
Making notecards. For vocabulary or academic terms, making notecards and flashcards and repeatedly reviewing them can help with memorizing words, terms, and concepts.
Drawing. Some studying requires reviewing structures and diagrams. Copying those diagrams and structures, and drawing them yourself allows you to create and visualize what it is you’re trying to study, therefore making it more memorable.
Creating an outline. Creating an outline may help with mapping out bigger concepts including the smaller details. It can also help create visual sections and groupings of information that may help recalling details when exam time approaches.
Using elaborative interrogation. Elaborative interrogation is basically producing an explanation for why something you’re learning is true. It’s like you coming up with a defensive reason for why a fact or statement is important.[6] You could also use this method to talk about concepts out loud and make yourself more familiar with the material by justifying and explaining it’s significance.

2
Be an active learner. When reading or listening to a lecture, try to engage with the material. This means instead of just being present with the material, challenge it and yourself. Ask questions about what is being lectured, connect the material to your real life, compare it with other information you have learned throughout your life and discuss an explain this new material to other people.[7]
Actively participating with your studies makes the material more meaningful and able to hold your interest, which, in turn, makes concentrating on it easier.

3
Practice some mental concentration strategies. Working on improving your concentration takes time and patience. After practicing some of these strategies, you’ll probably begin to see improvement within days.[8] Some concentration strategies include:
Be here now. This simple and effective strategy helps bring back your wandering mind to the task at hand: When you become aware of the fact that your thoughts are no longer on your studies, say to yourself, “Be here now,” and try to reign in your wandering thoughts, and focus back on your study material.
For example, you're in class and your attention strays from the lecture to the fact that you're craving coffee and the last bagel at the café is probably gone by now. As you say to yourself, “Be here now,” you fix your attention back to the lecture, and keep it there for as long as you can.[9]
Keep track of your mental wanderings. Mark down every time you catch your mind drifting away from what you should be concentrating on. As you get better and better with bringing yourself back to the present task, the number of times you break concentration should be less and less.[10]

4
Allow for some time to worry. Research has shown that when people put aside a designated time to worry and think about things that stress them out, people worry 35% less within four weeks.[11] That proves that when you let yourself worry and think about things during a certain amount of time, you spend less time worrying and getting distracted when you should be concentrating on other things.
If you ever find yourself worrying about something while you’re trying to focus and concentrate, remember that you have a special time to worry about things. You can even try the “be here now” method to bring yourself back to concentrating.
For example, give yourself a half hour before you start studying to worry about upcoming exams, your family, or whatever else is on your mind. Worry during this elected time so when you have to study, you can put all your attention and focus on doing that.[12]

5
Set study goals. While the subjects you need to study might not be the most interesting topics, you can shift your perspective while studying to make concentrating easier. By setting goals for yourself, you change your studying experience from having to “get through,” the subject, to reaching check points and continually succeeding in progressing with your study session.[13]
For example, instead of having the mentality of, “I have to study all of chapter 6 tonight,” set a goal for yourself with something like, “I will study sections 1-3 by 4:30, and then take a walking break.” That way, conquering a study session transforms from a large, daunting task, to a smaller, more achievable portions. This sectional break up of study time increasing your willingness to concentrate and reach your studying goal.

6
Study with short breaks. Normally, studying for about an hour at a time and then taking a 5-10 minute break is the most effectual study schedule to maintain concentration on a given task. Taking a short break gives your mind time to relax, so it can be ready to stay productive and absorb information.[14]
Move around. Get up and stretch after sitting for about an hour. You could do some yoga, push ups, or any other kind of physical activity to get your blood pumping. These short breaks in studying will make the time you spend studying more productive and attentive.

5 Tips for a Happy & Healthy Mind

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
5 Tips for a Happy & Healthy Mind
5 Tips for a Happy & Healthy Mind


by Caroline Rushforth
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What kind of information do you like to fill your mind with? Do you find yourself constantly reading cheap or free newspapers only to find there is a terrible story in it that upsets you? Or perhaps you get caught up in other people’s opinions and conversations and find yourself agreeing to things that you actually don’t agree with!

Did you know that you are heavily influenced by the people you surround yourself with on a regular basis? In fact, you pick up behaviors, mannerisms, opinions, beliefs and oodles of other information that your brain unconsciously absorbs, resulting in similar behaviors.

If you want to make a change, grow or break a habit or routine, look to your environment - the people around you, where you work, what you read and how you speak to yourself. All have significant influences on what you are internalizing, and have an impact on how you live your life. Here are five tips on keeping a healthy mind to help you on your way!

1. Meditation/Mindfulness

We read about the profound effects that meditation has on our mind, but how many of you actually do it on a daily basis? I used to be a complete fidget bum in my early 20s, and the thought of staying still for longer than a minute was catastrophic! It was certainly challenging, but I practiced and persevered and now find it pretty effortless if I give myself enough time to relax. I do have to make time every evening to relax and clear my mind before I can go to sleep, or else I won’t sleep well! Of course, first thing in the morning is also a great time to meditate. When you meditate, you are giving your mind time to clear, reformat itself for all the new information that is going to be taken in the following day, or day ahead.

2. Media

As important as it is to be aware of what is going on in the world, the media is very centered on pain and negativity. This fuels pessimism, and ideally it’s best to avoid subjecting your mind to it regularly. There is no point in being stressed or worried about something you have limited control over; it’s a pointless waste of energy. Also, beware of brainwashing; all is not necessarily as it seems, and the media are great at exaggerating and bending the truth. If you want to make a difference to the world in some way, you could seek out some voluntary work or donate to a charity.

3. Surround yourself with people who give you opportunities to grow.

There is a metaphor which I love to use to describe letting go of old friends or relationships that are no longer useful to us. I like to call them “Old Potatoes.” If you can let go of some Old Potatoes, you can make way for New Potatoes. Friendships and relationships are based on love, and love is energy. When the frequencies change, you will find that particular friends and relationships may drop away, or you don’t feel you have anything in common with them any longer. If you continue to hold on to relationships which no longer serve you, they sap your energy resources or distract you from focussing your mind. Holding on to Old Potatoes blocks the doorway to gaining new ones. Don’t be afraid to let go if you feel the time is right; you will find that new opportunities will arise as a result. You never know who that next amazing person/teacher/friend/lover/mentor is going to be!

4. Eat healthy

Of course, eating healthy and staying hydrated are really important for brain function. I have spent many years discovering what my body likes and dislikes, and it’s taken me years to change habits and routines. But, I feel so much better for cutting down on wheat, dairy, caffeine and sugar. All of these things affect how I think and how my body feels. Of course, the experience is different for everyone, which is why only you know what your body needs and would benefit from eliminating. You can experiment by cutting out a certain food or drink for as short as a week if you suspect that your body is rejecting it. The turnaround time is normally five days to completely flush it out of your system.

5. Spend your time doing something you LOVE!

The most important thing of all is to ensure you spend time doing a hobby or activity you love. When we participate in doing something we love, we radiate so many positive emotions, all magnetizing out into the universe to bring you back more joy and happiness. So many people get stuck in a rut and lose focus on what is important and brings them pleasure. Find something you love to do, and do it daily.
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Lessons from Deepika and Ranbir on How to Manage Relationships Against All Odds

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Lessons from Deepika and Ranbir on How to Manage Relationships Against All Odds
Deepika and Ranbir show you how to manage relationships against all odds

Relationships may or may not always pan out the way you expect them to. Be it with a friend, family member or your partner, certain relationships may end up getting bitter over time. The reasons for this may be tensions in the relationship, break-ups, lack of compatibility, infidelity, lack of attention to details, over familiarity and so on. Although such incidents may scar you forever, it is always possible to mend your relationships, if you intend to.

The first thing you can do is to try to build a new friendship, whether it’s with your ex-lover or anyone else you may have had a fall-out with. Take for example, the former couple- Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone. These Bollywood celebrities have flawlessly transitioned from being ex-lovers to being good friends.

So how did they do it?
Through 3 simple ways Ranbir and Deepika were able to heal the past and forge a new and meaningful relationship:

1. They kept it formal while setting boundaries

Ranbir and Deepika comfortably worked with each other in several movies as on-screen lovers with no insecurities. The reason they were able to do this was because they had set clear emotional boundaries.
Being secure is essential for you to stop yourself from reliving the past. Setting clear boundaries may help you in accepting that things are different now and the relationship has changed. Both the concerned people must respect each other’s decisions in order to have cordial relations and not be uncomfortable in the other’s presence.

2. They accepted the differences between them

Ranbir and Deepika were only successful in maintaining a cordial relationship because they had embraced each other’s differences rather than attempting to change each other.
You can only do this by giving yourself a little time. You can personally try to accept how every individual has a set of distinct characteristics and then try to respect and accept them for it.

3. They were polite and lived in the present

Even after having a checkered history together Ranbir and Deepika chose to remain courteous and amicable towards one another. They only focused on the present scenario, instead of mulling over past grievances - The biggest reason why they are on such good terms.
You should try to forget the past and hope for an improved future. Whether you meet at a social or an official gathering, you must hold your ground, be professional and courteous towards the concerned person. Participating in loose gossip about the individual or acting petty doesn’t reflect well on your personality.
Also, living in the past is a sign of an unhealthy state of mind. Learn to let go, and move on.

By learning from the real-life example of Deepika and Ranbir, you too can balance all your relationships well, no matter what happens.

If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.
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Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata

5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

If you tell people that their diet or lifestyle or habits make them unhealthy, and chances are that they’d believe you. Not only that, they’d even agree with you wholeheartedly. But if you tell them that the same makes them dumber, then they’d either laugh at you or fight with you. However, its true. Certain things really lower your IQ. Read on to find out.
1. Group projects or meetings: Being a part of group projects or meetings can greatly drain your brain reveals a recent study. The reason for that is that when you’re in a group you have to concentrate more on behaviour and interaction, as a result of which your brain’s performance reduces and you end up making more ‘silly mistakes.’ In fact the situation worsens in a mixed sex group. Research found out that 14% men fare poorly at mental tasks when they feel that women are watching them. Best performance on the other hand is guaranteed when you work alone.
2. Jetlag: Jetlag can cause permanent problems in learning and memory. Research carried out by the University of California revealed that frequent jet lags are equivalent to a hangover that lasts way too long. This can cause you trouble in learning new things. In fact the same study also revealed that the effect of frequent jet lags can last more than a month, making you stupider in the long run. This is because constantly resetting your body clock can alter the anatomy of your brain. That’s the reason why flight attendants are found to suffer from severe memory loss.
3. Being spanked as a child: A research conducted by the University of Hampshire showed that children who were hit as punishment suffered from trauma that hampered their mental growth, and as a consequence led to lower IQs. This post-traumatic stress disorder faced by children who were spanked was the same that soldiers go through when watching heads being blown off. Not only that, even letting babies cry can cause lower IQs in them as the stress experienced is the same. In fact, letting babies cry can cause permanent brain damage which can also lead to trust issues. However, conflicts among family members has a positive impact in decision making, executive function of the child.
4. Junk food: A study found out that kids who eat plenty of junk food at the age of 3 can suffer from low IQs at the age of 8 as compared to those who followed a healthier diet. Eating junk food led to underdeveloped cognitive, behavioural and social skills in children due to lack of nutrition required by the brain to develop properly. In fact sugary foods can have the same effect on adults as well. Overdose of sugar can make your body resistant to insulin which interferes with the way your brain cells work, making you more stupid as a result.

5. Being a city dweller: Living in a city can be the reason why you suffer from poor memory, inattention and learning problems. The reason behind is that living in a city is very taxing for your brain, and your attention is divided between all the multitasking you have to do. This can lead to exhaustion, which as a result can lead to poor memory since your brain is just too tired to recall things. On the other hand, greener environments have the exact opposite effect and can help your brain in functioning more efficiently.

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5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
5 Unbelievable Things That Lower Your Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

If you tell people that their diet or lifestyle or habits make them unhealthy, and chances are that they’d believe you. Not only that, they’d even agree with you wholeheartedly. But if you tell them that the same makes them dumber, then they’d either laugh at you or fight with you. However, its true. Certain things really lower your IQ. Read on to find out.

1. Group projects or meetings: Being a part of group projects or meetings can greatly drain your brain reveals a recent study. The reason for that is that when you’re in a group you have to concentrate more on behaviour and interaction, as a result of which your brain’s performance reduces and you end up making more ‘silly mistakes.’ In fact the situation worsens in a mixed sex group. Research found out that 14% men fare poorly at mental tasks when they feel that women are watching them. Best performance on the other hand is guaranteed when you work alone.

2. Jetlag: Jetlag can cause permanent problems in learning and memory. Research carried out by the University of California revealed that frequent jet lags are equivalent to a hangover that lasts way too long. This can cause you trouble in learning new things. In fact the same study also revealed that the effect of frequent jet lags can last more than a month, making you stupider in the long run. This is because constantly resetting your body clock can alter the anatomy of your brain. That’s the reason why flight attendants are found to suffer from severe memory loss.

3. Being spanked as a child: A research conducted by the University of Hampshire showed that children who were hit as punishment suffered from trauma that hampered their mental growth, and as a consequence led to lower IQs. This post-traumatic stress disorder faced by children who were spanked was the same that soldiers go through when watching heads being blown off. Not only that, even letting babies cry can cause lower IQs in them as the stress experienced is the same. In fact, letting babies cry can cause permanent brain damage which can also lead to trust issues. However, conflicts among family members has a positive impact in decision making, executive function of the child.

4. Junk food: A study found out that kids who eat plenty of junk food at the age of 3 can suffer from low IQs at the age of 8 as compared to those who followed a healthier diet. Eating junk food led to underdeveloped cognitive, behavioural and social skills in children due to lack of nutrition required by the brain to develop properly. In fact sugary foods can have the same effect on adults as well. Overdose of sugar can make your body resistant to insulin which interferes with the way your brain cells work, making you more stupid as a result.

5. Being a city dweller: Living in a city can be the reason why you suffer from poor memory, inattention and learning problems. The reason behind is that living in a city is very taxing for your brain, and your attention is divided between all the multitasking you have to do. This can lead to exhaustion, which as a result can lead to poor memory since your brain is just too tired to recall things. On the other hand, greener environments have the exact opposite effect and can help your brain in functioning more efficiently.

If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.
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What are the symptoms of depression and what medical treatment should be taken to ensure compliance.

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
What are the symptoms of depression and what medical treatment should be taken to ensure compliance.
Intense sadness, low mood, tension, fatigue, irritation. Loss of appetite, and/or overeating insomnia or hypersomnia loss of weight decrease libido (sexual energy). Loss of interests poor self esteem. Suicidal ideation and /or attempted suicide poor concentration and distraction, forgetfulness. All the above symptoms persists more than two weeks. Then you should consult with a psychiatrist.
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Living life with depression

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Living life with depression
Develop supportive relationships

Isolation and loneliness make depression even worse, so maintaining your close relationships and social activities are important.

1. Turn to trusted friends and family members.

2. Try to keep up with social activities even if you don't like it.

3. Join a support group for depression.

Take care of yourself

In order to overcome depression, you have to take care of yourselfs. This includes-

1. Aim for 8 hours of sleep.
2. Expose yourself more to sunlight everyday.
3. Keep stress in check.
4. Practice relaxation techniques.

Challenge negative thinking

Negative thinking leads to dangerous consequences like self harm and low confidence. Ways to challenge negative thinking:

1. Think outside yourself.
2. Socialize with positive people.


Get regular exercise.

When you are depressed, exercising may be the last thing you feel like doing. But exercise us a powerful tool for dealing with depression:

1. Take the stairs rather the elevator.
2. Park your car in the farthest spot in the lot.
3. Do some gardening.
4. Pair up with an exercise partner.
5. Walk while you're talking on the phone.

Aim for a balanced diet of low fat protein, complex carbohydrates, fruits and vegetables.

1. Don't skip meals.
2. Minimize sugar and refined carbs.
3. Focus on complex carbohydrates like lentils, skimmed milk.
4. Boost your b vitamins like whole grains, potatoes, bananas, lentils.
5. Try super foods such as bananas.
6. Alcohol/ tobacco acts as a depressant on the brain. If you drink too much or too often, you are more likely to become depressed.
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Stay strong

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Stay strong
Be grateful
Remember the mission
Move your body
Practice kindness
Be with beauty and nature
Laugh and play
Indulge a healthy pleasure
Honour past gifts
Take pleasure in small goals
Forgive self and others
Observe the now
Hold to the good.
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