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Our medical care facility offers treatments from the best doctors in the field of Counselling Psychologist.Our goal is to offer our patients, and all our community the most affordable, tr......more
Our medical care facility offers treatments from the best doctors in the field of Counselling Psychologist.Our goal is to offer our patients, and all our community the most affordable, trustworthy and professional service to ensure your best health. I have already published a book on the 'Psyche of Addictions' and is available with me for Rs. 250/- only. You can contact me for copies.
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Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
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Sir I am facing lot of stress, memory loss, tension, less confidence. please tell me how to over common these problems.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir I am facing lot of stress, memory loss, tension, less confidence. please tell me how to over common these problems.
Your memory loss, tension and perhaps low confidence is all related to the stress that you are experiencing. First of all, the intensity of stress is in the perception. Change your perception, there is no stress: it’s like looking at a glass half full or half empty. Apart from that, all your emotions need to be dealt with by expression i.e. You need to talk about the feelings. Then you need to exercise regularly, eat fiber foods (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), sleep at least 8 hours every day, learn Yoga and meditation, learn stress management, and do a personality development course. Because you are into studies, follow a tight schedule, with good breaks and study habits. If group study helps you, do it with the right people. If tutoring is required, arrange for the same. These should see you through successfully without the stress.
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My wife is suffering from BIPOLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER. I want to know more about this disease and also permanent cure or solution at the earliest.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My wife is suffering from BIPOLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER. I want to know more about this disease and also permanent cure ...
It can be a crippling disease if not treated and if treated early the prognosis is good. So quickly visit a psychiatrist and seek his/her opinion and she must then follow the medication prescribed. Comply with all the medical prescriptions and work in tandem with a counselor for a long time and learn coping skills and techniques to handle the daily challenges she will face. There are certain adaptations that will suit her during the elation phase and there are certain behaviors that are required during the depressed phases. In the meantime she can do certain things that will give her benefits anyway. Emotional therapy will alleviate a lot of the problems faced in this condition because it is a mood disorder. She needs to particularly look at your levels of anger both for its reasonableness and to express it in appropriate manner. I suspect that much of this anger may have origins in early childhood that she may never be aware of now. Talk to her parents and explore that angle. This information will help the counselor too. Also you will need to check whether there is any genetic factor involved. She must exercise regularly, eat healthily and sleep normally too. If her motivation and cooperation is good much can be achieved. She must have a time-structured schedule filled with interesting and reasonable activities and it must be monitored for compliance and delivery. The reason I say this is that many times she will be inclined to have grandiose notions and confidently believe that she can do without the medication. This will set her back many months in the treatment and delay and sabotage the recovery: forewarned you are forearmed. If this combination of medication with therapy is maintained for at least three years without any episodes or breakdowns, it is possible to taper the medication in consonance with the doctor. Bipolar is characterized by two extreme poles i.e. Feeling very high (mania) and suddenly feeling very low (depression). You can ask the doctor for the symptoms he noticed in her for a personal understanding. Regarding some of the symptoms here goes: Mania is a term that describes the emotional highs of bipolar disorder. In general, symptoms of a manic episode may include: •High energy, excessive activity, and/or restlessness •Overly good mood •Irritability •Fast, erratic talking •Racing thoughts •Inability to concentrate •Little need for sleep •Feelings of power •Poor judgment •Reckless spending •High sex drive •Alcohol or drug abuse •Aggression •Refusal to admit that there is a problem Bipolar Symptoms: Depression In bipolar disorder, manic episodes alternate with periods of emotional lows, which are known as depressive episodes. Signs of a depressive episode may include: •Sadness, anxiety, or a feeling of emptiness •Hopelessness •Feelings of guilt, feeling worthless, or feeling helpless •Lack of interest in activities that were once enjoyable, such as sex •Low energy •Trouble with concentration or memory •Restlessness or irritability •Excessive sleeping or insomnia •Changes in appetite or weight •Pain or other physical symptoms not explained by an illness or injury Thoughts of death, or suicidal thoughts or attempts to kill the self.
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I got irritated and getting angry on others whole day and night .suffering from stress, mental tension. I can not sleep. A severe forehead pain. What to do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I got irritated and getting angry on others whole day and night .suffering from stress, mental tension. I can not sle...
You have not mentioned your age but if you are young, then there may be a need to meet with a counselor along with your parents to determine any contributing factors from childhood. First of all, the intensity of stress is in the perception. Change your perception, there is no stress: it’s like looking at a glass half full or half empty. Apart from that, all your emotions need to be dealt with by expression i.e. You need to talk about the feelings. Then you need to exercise regularly, eat fiber foods (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), sleep at least 8 hours every day, learn Yoga and meditation, learn stress management, and do a personality development course. Because you are into studies, follow a tight schedule, with good breaks and study habits. If group study helps you, do it with the right people. If tutoring is required, arrange for the same. These should see you through successfully without the stress. The headache is related to your anger and needs some expressions to deal with it.
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Sir... I have suffer from depression problem my mind has does not work to do any work properly and I do not concentrate our business tell me how I reduce our stress and what meditation I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir... I have suffer from depression problem my mind has does not work to do any work properly and I do not concentra...
You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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Sir I am doing masturbation since I was 12 year old now I am 25 year old. Sir I am doing it on regular basis i.e 5 times in a weak. Now I am facing various problem like quick ejaculations and weight loss, constipation and hair fall and low confidence. Sir I have tried to stop masturbating or less but its habitual sir. Sir please suggest me what should I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir I am doing masturbation since I was 12 year old now I am 25 year old.
Sir I am doing it on regular basis i.e 5 ti...
The weight loss, constipation, hair loss, and low confidence has nothing to do with masturbation. Masturbation is not really bad; it is the addiction to it that is bad. Not even the number of years is a problem but the frequency and compulsiveness to do it is to be considered for its ill-effects. At your age you may feel it difficult and it can become addictive if you have alone time, if you obsess about it, and if you are not into relationships. The problem with addiction to this is that you may go on to prefer masturbation to heterosexual contact, even when you are married. That obviously would be an insult to your wife and will lead to a lot of conflict. Heterosexual contact is very wholesome and the physiology is made exactly for penile and vaginal contact. You will instead enjoy a poor replica of this and not know or care for the difference. The second thing that can happen with addiction is that it will become compulsive and will have no boundaries or limits, since it can be done all by yourself, whenever, wherever, and however too. The big problem a lot of children get into is the guilt around this. A useful way to discharge the energy is to get into contact games, or exercises, or even hobbies to channelize it. Also you should not spend too much time alone, and you need to keep your mind occupied with other interesting things and a lot of socializing. Even if you are not interested in marriage, for whatever reasons, it will help you to get into a friendship with a girl and enjoy the relationship where there will be a lot of excitement when you fall in love. Right now your hormones may be very active and your physiological apparatus is primed and ready for sexual stimulation. But because of your age and even otherwise it is important to develop good control and not feed into your impulses. Keeping yourself occupied and living a healthy social life are the keys to manage your sexual drives.
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I got married before 10 months. My marriage is a love marriage but now am not happy with that I feel my life is fully gone. I could not sleep. I sacrificed everything but he couldn't understand me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Understanding is extremely important in a relationship. But why despair? Differences will always come up in relationships and these can be sorted out by going for counseling before it gets out of hand. Love marriages tend to lose its glamour soon but it does nt necessarily have to end in doom. The first two years of your marriage is very important to learn to adjust. This is immaterial as to how long your courtship was. Adjustability will last your lifetime and so some education through therapy will definitely help.
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My basic problem is rumination about past. I am very emotional and presently mentally attached with a person since 4 yrs. How do I get rid of that at mental level.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My basic problem is rumination about past. I am very emotional and presently mentally attached with a person since 4 ...
The past should be our teacher. In other words, we must learn from the past and then move on. If you indulge too much into the past you will tend to feel angry and sad. But if you look back and learn lessons, it is worth all the trouble. Being emotional will make you attached to someone else as a dependency factor. So if you meet with a counselor and learn to deal with your emotions in particular, you will be fine i.e. Expressing them appropriately. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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My 3 years old daughter is very aggressive at times and shouts and hit in anger. This is only at times when she does not have her way or does not get what she wants. Her aggression is not restricted to children but also adults. She is a nursery student and her teacher also shares same observations.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If all other factors or influences in her upbringing was normal, then this behavior is related to the terrible-twos. At this juncture they are testing limits and you must set boundaries for this type of behavior and ask her instead what she is angry about. Once she know limitations within which she is allowed to act angry, and is also allowed to talk about it, she will find the way to do her expressions. In the meantime, show her a lot of love, as she may be also testing to see whether you will reject her and what conditions are required for that. If she succeeds to get you to reject her she has won this round to her detriment. In confronting her anyway always reject the behavior not the person. The reason (if everything else was normal) is that since she was the center of the world for two years, she will be threatened by the lack or less attention recently because you may all assume that she is capable in certain areas, leading to a 'feeling' of neglect. Lots of renewed attention and love will heal this feeling.
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I want to know that I have ocd whenever I try to study or I am in stress it gets worse how can I cope with it without taking medicine in home.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Meet with a counselor first and then if that person recommends a psychiatrist to deal with this issue, do visit one as soon as possible. Please take your parents with you to determine the possible developmental issues that may have contributed to this condition. This is a fear-based condition and for some reason you have not been dealing with this childhood fear which has now developed unto these repetitive adaptations to seem to need it for normal functioning. The behavior will then become based on magical thinking and certain rituals will become necessary to do normal things making you believe that either the frequency or the ritual is important to its success. This of course is a fallacy but there will come a time that even if told the truth, your belief will defy any logic and you will continue behaving like that even if it cripples you in your daily routines. It only appears as though some other force is behind these behaviors and that you are compelled to act in this fashion. That is obviously not true but no one can convince you of anything different. The obsession is a repeating thought pattern with no meaningful outcome; and the compulsiveness is the need to act on those obsessions also in a repeated behavior pattern as though you just cannot help yourself. There are certain behavioral techniques to be implemented and if they work you may get out of this condition rather easily. If that does not work as desired, then medication has to be introduced, and in combination with counseling much work can be achieved.
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Hi my husband want to quit alcohol so what are drinks to be given in night to replace alcohol. Suggest me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You can give him all kinds of soups, rasam/pepper water, juices with less sugar, and non-aerated softdrinks with less sugar. He can also consume hard candy and chewing gum (even the nicotine kind) just to occupy his mouth but watch the sugar content.
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I am 25 year old boy I have married 3 months ago my sex life is normal but I want to increase my intercourse ejaculation time please suggest some strategy.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 25 year old boy I have married 3 months ago my sex life is normal but I want to increase my intercourse ejaculat...
Most of the reason for that is in the mind i.e you are getting too excited too fast. So learn to control that and also you enjoyment of intercourse may be too much too. The other options is to do it a second time and it will take longer and then even a third time to delay it further.
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I just searched about the symptoms of depression. And every symptoms match with my symptoms. Therefore I know that I am suffering from depression. I am in class 12. I want to do best result. And want a bright career and thats why I have to study best. But I can not study. I feel dizzy irritating and hesitated most of the times. Nd my father can not understand that m suffering from any problem my mom also. They can not want to accept the fact that I am suffering from any problem. This problem start from when m in class 9.i had fight too much with my mom that time. Can not control my anger. Started crying most of the times, feels lonely, nobody is around without mom and dad. No amazing friend circle. If I start laughing once than I can not stop myself from laughing. thats why my friends all time tells me that I am mad, I have no work to do rather than laughing. What should I do please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I just searched about the symptoms of depression. And every symptoms match with my symptoms. Therefore I know that I ...
At your age this claim is serious. If you have depression then there are some major ramifications to take into account. I believe there may be some genetic predisposition or there has been some childhood issue, related to anger, that needs urgent attention. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. As regards the concentration you are sure to have hormonal imbalances which may impact your memory because of the chemical but also the distractions that come with it; together with depression I can imagine your problems. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling. The counselor can then explain the problem to your parents or you can get a close relative to explain to them too.
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His wife does not get climax during sex even 15 to 20 minutes of duration. But by masturbation, she reaches ti climax with in 1 or 2 min. Penis size of my friend is 5.5 inches. My friend feel guilty. This happened since his sex at first night after marriage. What to do to get climax during sex. Even sometimes she get exhausted because of long duration of sex but she doesn't reach to climax.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
His wife does not get climax during sex even 15 to 20 minutes of duration. But by masturbation, she reaches ti climax...
Ideally, he should indulge in foreplay and get her close to orgasm and then he could enter her and finish the job effectively. This will definitely work in this situation. It is likely that she has some strong inhibitions about sex and will need to be coaxed to it. Foreplay is extremely important especially for a woman. Once she reaches a point of no-return, he can easily consummate the intercourse successfully.
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I was suffering from anxiety before 5 months. Then I visit doc psychiatrist he gave me med then after two months I was fine. I went russia I came from there after 4 months. From ten days what I am feeling little pain in neck sometimes head tightening. Some times like little pain is passing left side in head then some times right side in head. Some times its coming from back side but not shooting one jus little little. Its tightening my that portion where you feel pain. Now I am scaring I feel that anxiety that am I fine whats in my head whats going on. I feel little vomit when I think about that head pain.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I was suffering from anxiety before 5 months. Then I visit doc psychiatrist he gave me med then after two months I wa...
You should always follow doctor's instructions regarding the use and disuse of medication. It is not prudent for you to self medicate even if you are very knowledgeable. Some medicines have to run a full course and/or must be reduced gradually. Self-regulation is therefore not advisable. Kindly go back to your doctor and see what he advises. In the meantime follow these instructions: Anxiety has all to do with fear and your inability (or so you would tend to think) to handle the same. Fear is based on looking too much into the future and imagining things that usually do not tend to happen (usually 90% of your fears will not happen). You need to change your perception of the fearful stimulus then you can change your response to the fear. The first one is the best and will preempt the need for the second. If you are already far gone into the reaction mode, then you need both responses to counter the attack. The way we see things in life (like half empty or half full glass) is very dependent on our attitude. Attitude may have developed over many years but fortunately can change in a matter of sustained choices made and acted up on now. Accordingly you choose to see things as either threatening or as an opportunity. The opportunist will be positive and work with the situation to make good out of it. The individual who sees it as threatening, will, out of fear, try to avoid/run away from the situation or react with anxiety. Yes, self-belief does impact it too, but you can see that prior to that, perception will tarnish the belief system too. Here, you can see that all the resolution lies in just changing your perception/attitude, even if it is against odds. Changing your response, despite the perception, is building up of your reserves and resources to handle any contingency that life throws up at you. And life throws up situations quite regularly and heavily. For this you need to develop a fit mind and body: The former, by meditation and mind exercises; and the later, by exercises and proper diet. You need good sleep too. Included in the development of the mind is the handling of emotions, in your case, fear. These changes will give you a handle on life and your perceptions and responses. Prayer is really powerful, if you are a spiritual person. Repeat some personally framed affirmations that are geared to calming you down and building confidence. Do a personality course too. Anything that develops you personally will be of great assistance in building resilience.
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I am Suffering from Masturbation in Twice a day how can I control this. And what measures I wanna do for avoiding complete masturbation reply.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am Suffering from Masturbation in Twice a day how can I control this. And what measures I wanna do for avoiding com...
Masturbation is not really bad; it is the addiction to it that is bad. Not even the number of years is a problem but the frequency and compulsiveness to do it is to be considered for its ill-effects. At your age you may feel it difficult and it can become addictive if you have alone time, if you obsess about it, and if you are not into relationships. The problem with addiction to this is that you may go on to prefer masturbation to heterosexual contact, even when you are married. That obviously would be an insult to your wife and will lead to a lot of conflict. Heterosexual contact is very wholesome and the physiology is made exactly for penile and vaginal contact. You will instead enjoy a poor replica of this and not know or care for the difference. The second thing that can happen with addiction is that it will become compulsive and will have no boundaries or limits, since it can be done all by yourself, whenever, wherever, and however too. The big problem a lot of children get into is the guilt around this. A useful way to discharge the energy is to get into contact games, or exercises, or even hobbies to channelize it. Also you should not spend too much time alone, and you need to keep your mind occupied with other interesting things and a lot of socializing. Even if you are not interested in marriage, for whatever reasons, it will help you to get into a friendship with a girl and enjoy the relationship where there will be a lot of excitement when you fall in love. Right now your hormones may be very active and your physiological apparatus is primed and ready for sexual stimulation. But because of your age and even otherwise it is important to develop good control and not feed into your impulses. Keeping yourself occupied and living a healthy social life are the keys to manage your sexual drives.
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Hi, I am 25, male. I am unable to sleep at night. I have to masturbate to sleep. If I don't do so, I am awake till morning and then I have to go for work. After that when I come back from work, I fall asleep for only one or one and a half hour. After 3-4 or on holiday. I sleep for full day, but I am unable to sleep in night. I don't want to take any medicine, nor I smoke neither Drink. I eat three to four times a day. What should I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi, I am 25, male. I am unable to sleep at night. I have to masturbate to sleep. If I don't do so, I am awake till mo...
Masturbation and sleep is a conditioned response that you believe works but it has nothing to do with each other. Now if you have sleep problems at night, you are creating for yourself huge problems about sleeping at night: you could disturb your biorhythm. In your case, never sleep during the day and that itself will improve night sleep.
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I Got Married 2 Months Ago And And Whenever I Intercourse With My Wife She's Doesn't Look Satisfied So I Asked Her And She Replied Yeah I Wanted You To Be The For More Minutes But You Stress So Quick. What Should I Do About That.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I Got Married 2 Months Ago And And Whenever I Intercourse With My Wife She's Doesn't Look Satisfied So I Asked Her An...
You may need to spend more time and indulge in sexual foreplay to get her more excited. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, then you could improve the length of intercourse if you tried to do it a second time after a gap of half an hour. You could even explore a third time and that will for sure extend the time of intercourse. It sounds like she is sacrificing her satisfaction all for you. That is very kind of her but sex should be as equally satisfying for both, ideally.
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Sir my friend said if we do over masturbation we will died sir I have doing masturbation from 5 years.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir my friend said if we do over masturbation we will died sir I have doing masturbation from 5 years.
And you have not died: so your friend is wrong. You can never over-masturbate until you die for sure.
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Sir I had stop masturbation my question is what problem s I will face in future .my age is 20 and I have doing masturbation from 2012 to 2017 I had stop masturbation on 25 may 2017.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir I had stop masturbation my question is what problem s I will face in future .my age is 20 and I have doing mastur...
You will face no problem in the future. Masturbation is not really bad; it is the addiction to it that is bad. Not even the number of years is a problem but the frequency and compulsiveness to do it is to be considered for its ill-effects. At your age you may feel it difficult and it can become addictive if you have alone time, if you obsess about it, and if you are not into relationships. The problem with addiction to this is that you may go on to prefer masturbation to heterosexual contact, even when you are married. That obviously would be an insult to your wife and will lead to a lot of conflict. Heterosexual contact is very wholesome and the physiology is made exactly for penile and vaginal contact. You will instead enjoy a poor replica of this and not know or care for the difference. The second thing that can happen with addiction is that it will become compulsive and will have no boundaries or limits, since it can be done all by yourself, whenever, wherever, and however too. The big problem a lot of children get into is the guilt around this. A useful way to discharge the energy is to get into contact games, or exercises, or even hobbies to channelize it. Also you should not spend too much time alone, and you need to keep your mind occupied with other interesting things and a lot of socializing. Even if you are not interested in marriage, for whatever reasons, it will help you to get into a friendship with a girl and enjoy the relationship where there will be a lot of excitement when you fall in love. Right now your hormones may be very active and your physiological apparatus is primed and ready for sexual stimulation. But because of your age and even otherwise it is important to develop good control and not feed into your impulses. Keeping yourself occupied and living a healthy social life are the keys to manage your sexual drives.
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Hello Sir. I have this problem. I am used to masturbating by rubbing my penis on the bed. Now whenever I have intercourse, I do not orgasm at all, I only get tired. After that I have rub myself to ejaculate. This is affecting our baby planning. Its almost impossible to ejaculate into my wife. Kindly help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
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I have this problem. I am used to masturbating by rubbing my penis on the bed. Now whenever I have interco...
Masturbating by rubbing against the bed will offer a lot of friction. Since you have gotten used to that, vaginal contact will be a lot smoother and so you will not experience the friction of bed masturbation. If you like you may wipe off the discharge from the vagina and find some resistance which will certainly improve the ejaculation. However, you cannot do this always because the lubrication is supposed to be reduced and this will cause less discomfort fro your wife. So hit a balance between your needs and hers.
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