Common Specialities
{{speciality.keyWord}}
Common Issues
{{issue.keyWord}}
Common Treatments
{{treatment.keyWord}}
Dr. Dolly Anadkat  - Psychologist, Ahmedabad

Dr. Dolly Anadkat

92 (489 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach

Psychologist, Ahmedabad

10 Years Experience  ·  2000 at clinic  ·  ₹500 online
Dr. Dolly Anadkat 92% (489 ratings) Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach Psychologist, Ahmedabad
10 Years Experience  ·  2000 at clinic  ·  ₹500 online
Submit Feedback
Report Issue
Get Help
Feed
Services
Reviews

Personal Statement

www.dollyanadkat.com I am your partner in your personal journey from GOOD to GREAT. Difference between to just live by and being ALIVE is not to give up on our inner force to thrive,......more
www.dollyanadkat.com I am your partner in your personal journey from GOOD to GREAT. Difference between to just live by and being ALIVE is not to give up on our inner force to thrive, to grow, to change for better, to get more, to connect at deeper levels and to become what we are meant to be. My mission is to be with people who share this belief and help them in their journey from one mile stone to the next.
More about Dr. Dolly Anadkat
Dr. Dolly Anadkat is a Life, Wellness and Executive Coach. Dr. Anadkats life itself is a motivation to others for she struggled for what she believed in and ultimately met success. She sees herself as a friend, mentor and co-traveler who take other persons like her patients along with her in her journey of life. Dr. Anadkat is an alumnus of The Maharaja Sayajirao University of Baroda where she completed her Bachelor of Science degree. She holds a Masters degree in healthcare from Medical University of the Americas and a Ph.D from Medical University of the Americas. She is also certified by MentorCoach Inc. and International Coach Federation. Dr. Dolly Anadkat has served as a counsellor and coach at Medical University of the Americas for a period of seven years. She has founded her own institution in India called Be You - Your personal journey from Good to Great. Like her personal journey, her commitment towards her profession is astounding. Dr. Anadkat treats her patients and offers counselling for various psychological disorders. Her patients are motivated by her kind words and form a lifelong bond with her. Dr. Dolly Anadkat is a person whom many of her patients look up to not only as a doctor but a personal mentor and coach.

Info

Education
Ph. D - Psychology - Medical University of Americas, Nevis - 2007
Professional Certified Coach - Mentor Coach Inc. (USA) - 2015
Languages spoken
English
Gujarati
Hindi

Location

Book Clinic Appointment

Dr. Dolly Anadkat

65 Madhuvan Bunglow Kalhar Road,ShilajAhmedabad Get Directions
  4.6  (489 ratings)
2000 at clinic
...more
View All

Consult Online

Text Consult
Send multiple messages/attachments. Get first response within 6 hours.
7 days validity ₹500 online
Consult Now
Phone Consult
Schedule for your preferred date/time
30 minutes call duration ₹1000 online
Consult Now

Health Packages

ENQUIRE
90 Days validity  •  Medicines included
₹18000
ENQUIRE
90 Days validity  •  Medicines included
₹30000
ENQUIRE
90 Days validity  •  Medicines included
₹15000
ENQUIRE
90 Days validity  •  Medicines included
₹15000
ENQUIRE
90 Days validity  •  Medicines included
₹30000

Services

View All Services

Submit Feedback

Submit a review for Dr. Dolly Anadkat

Your feedback matters!
Write a Review

Patient Review Highlights

"Very helpful" 10 reviews "Helped me impr..." 1 review "Caring" 2 reviews "knowledgeable" 4 reviews "Practical" 3 reviews "Inspiring" 2 reviews "Well-reasoned" 1 review

Reviews

Popular
All Reviews
View More
View All Reviews

Feed

Why Saying 'No' Is Important For A Healthy Life?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Why Saying 'No' Is Important For A Healthy Life?

'No' appears to be a very simple and straightforward word. However, it can be shockingly hard to say. People most of the time agree to things that they really do not want. Since they would preferably feel overburdened and low rather than disappoint somebody, saying "no" feels easier to maintain connections with people.

The repercussions of this absence of disagreement is critical. By overcommitting ourselves, we are actually consuming the majority of our positive energy and using it somewhere where you might not want to. This takes away from our common character and quality. It leaves us tired and we meet each day like it is simply one more battle. We also give up our own requirements for space, stillness, relaxation and imagination and are bound to our state.

To stay away from this, we must know about our own necessities and priorities for both mental and physical well-being and joy. For this, one may have to know when saying "yes" will fulfill your requirement for rest, relaxation or self-awareness. When one does this, their unfounded dread of not being socially acceptable from saying "no" will go away gradually.

Here are three reasons why saying "no" can prove to be beneficial:

  1. You will have additional time: The extra time made by saying "no" will, at any rate, prevent that forced clock from ticking. It will make you feel like you are in control. This can truly lighten up your mood and lift your anxiety and bolster your health. Rather than saying yes to going out for lunch or a party that you feel obligated to go to, but might not want to, simply try to say no. You will automatically feel happier when you are sitting at home, relaxing rather than forcefully socialising.
  2. You will be less remorseful: At first, you may be reluctant to state "no" because of a paranoid fear of passing up a major opportunity or the fear of missing out. As a general rule, nonetheless, in case that you need to state "no," odds are you have much better explanations for you not being there. If you do go for it, you might regret it afterwards thinking that you could have done something better with your time rather than having completely wasted it.
  3. Your associates will respect you for it: No one wants that they should be taken for granted. However, in case that you continue saying "yes" to each demand or opportunity, that is precisely how individuals will come to see you. The more you say "yes," the more individuals will generally expect things of you. This could prompt to a drop in your status and position and loss of control over others.
1 person found this helpful

This Is What Living With Schizophrenia Is Really Like!

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
This Is What Living With Schizophrenia Is Really Like!

Chronic health disorders like Schizophrenia affect not only the patient, but also the life of their care givers. Though Schizophrenia can be treated to improve the patient's quality of life, it cannot be cured. Hence, it falls on the care giver's shoulders to watch out for symptoms of this disease and manage the person and their disorder. What should one do in such a case?

1. Educate yourself: The first step towards looking after a person with Schizophrenia is to know the symptoms of the disease. With treatment, these may become better or worse so if you notice any change in the symptoms, bring it to your doctors notice at once.

2. Reduce stress: Your goal as a schizophrenic person's caregiver should be to give them a calm environment and boost their confidence. Stress has a negative effect on all people and in schizophrenics this effect is much worse. Hence reduce stress and create an effective support system and structured environment for your loved one.

3. Do not ask the patient to change 'his reality': When a person is suffering from schizophrenia, you should not force them to change their behaviour and reality, in order to adjust in the society at large. You should rather support the patient to accept his reality, to be at peace, since there is a very strong genetic component involved in its aetiology. Also, it is important that, both the patient and the family in particular should opt for regular counselling sessions.

4. Regular exercise: Schizophrenics need not be cooped up in the house all day. Encourage the patient to go outside and exercise regularly. Exercise reduces stress and produces endorphins that make a person feel energized and happy. This should be complemented by a healthy diet. Minimize the amount of carbs and sugar intake and increase the amounts of omega-3 fatty acids in the patient's diet.

5. Join a support group: Joining a support group is a very good idea for both the patient and the caregiver. For the patient, this provides a form of social interaction and for the caregiver is a platform to meet people with similar first hand experiences

6. Encourage treatment: Convincing a Schizophrenic person to seek treatment can be quite challenging. Suggest treating symptoms of the disorder such as insomnia and lack of energy rather than the disease itself to make the patient feel more comfortable.  Give the patient options to choose from to make them feel more in control of the situation.

7. Monitor medication: Once the treatment has started, ensure that the patient sticks to the prescription. Maintain a regular schedule by using weekly pill boxes and alarms. Also keep an eye on the possible side effects of these medicines. Ensure that your doctor has a complete list of medicines that the patient takes so that there is no chance of medicines interacting negatively with each other.

8. Prepare for crisis situations: It is always a good idea to have an emergency plan in place. Keep emergency contact details of all the doctors and therapists at hand along with the address and phone number of the closest hospital. Share your situation with friends and family so that in case of an emergency, they can be relied upon to take care of your children and other dependants. Consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

2603 people found this helpful

Health Quote of the Week

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Health Quote of the Week

Nature is the best medicine to decrease thoughts of worthlessness and boost confidence.

1 person found this helpful

Health Quote of the Week

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Health Quote of the Week

Closer proximity to green space reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression.

2 people found this helpful

Health Quote of the Week

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Health Quote of the Week

Stay happy because a sad soul can kill you quicker than a germ.

2 people found this helpful

Study Smarter and Not Harder!

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Study Smarter and Not Harder!

There are few things I hear over and over again from students:

  1. How they are studying for so many in a day
  2. How they do not have even time for anything else in their life due to study pressure
  3. How they are sleep deprived
  4. How much they are stressed
  5. And finally, after all the sacrifices and hard work, their exam performance is not what they expect.

Here are few tips to study smart, improve your grades and yet have a life!
We all know that 2 hours of focused study will be much more productive than 4 hours of distracted study. And, the good news is that concentration is a mental skill that you can develop and improve. There are two ways to improve your concentration:

A. First, work on raising your brain's natural ability to concentrate or in other words, learn to increase your attention span.
B. Second, adjust the environment around you to make concentrating easier.

Improving your concentration takes a little time and effort, but it is worth it. In my personal experience with students, I have seen noticeable improvement in relatively short time.

A. Ideas for daily concentration boosting habits include

  1. Mindfulness meditation: Many studies confirm that 20 minutes of meditation or more per day improves concentration and attention span. Mindfulness meditation, where one focuses on one's breathing,  is one of the simplest way of meditation. Start with ten minutes in the morning and ten minutes before bed. To begin with you may try a guided meditation. One can easily find audios for guided meditation online.
  2. Proper sleep: I am sorry to say this. Pulling all nighters will not help with your grade. Unless you are getting sufficient restful sleep, you are not going to be as mentally focused as you could be to study as well as answer questions in exams.
  3. Food for your Brain: The more you use certain skills, the more they are reinforced in the brain. So it makes sense that playing concentration games and games that require you to focus will improve your concentration ability. You need to be consistent in this. Play for about 10 to 20 minutes each day. Have fun, and get the benefits but remember not to spend more than 20 minutes a day. Your goal is to improve your concentration and not just keep scoring higher in the game! Try Lumosity and use only free version this will help you restrict your daily play time to 20 minutes and have maximum benefit.
  4. Eat healthier: Your brain needs the proper nutrients to allow you to focus. Eat more vegetables and fruits and avoid consumption of junk food as much as possible. Instead you could keep some nuts such as walnuts, almond or peanuts as in between munches. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white flour in your diet as much as you could.  
  5. Exercise: It is helpful in both reducing stress and increasing energy and focus. At least 20 minutes a day would go a long way. Going for a short jog of 20 minutes will make next 4 to 5 hours of study very efficient.

B. Optimize your mental state & environment

In addition to building the habits described above into your daily routine; also adjust your environment and your current mental state to improve your concentration when studying.

  1. Create a study space: Your brain loves routine. Create a place where all you do is study. An obvious choice is a secluded desk of some kind, but the trick is to make sure you only study in that spot. Studying in bed is a bad habit, for example, because your body is trained to want to sleep once you get into bed.
  2. Remove distractions: Turn off the ringer on your phone and take other steps to prevent interruptions. Don't study with the television on or with radio playing. Some studies have shown that soft instrumental music (no vocals) can help improve your concentration.
  3. Reduce background noises: If you have to study or work in an environment where it is too loud (classroom or open space) or too quiet (such as at home or at a library) you can get easily distracted by outside influences. With the right amount of background noise you can actually block out distractions and enhance your creative thinking.
  4. Use timer: Set a time limit when you need to study new material. For example, let's say you want to read one chapter in a book (and remember it). Decide in advance that you can have 45 minutes to read the chapter, and 15 minutes to review it. Set a timer to keep yourself honest, then pace yourself to keep within the allotted time.
  5. Stay motivated: If you see studying as burden, it's hard to concentrate. One way to stay motivated is to set up a reward system. Tell yourself you have to earn that hour of watching your favorite show later in the evening by first completing 2-3 hours of intense studying. That way, even if the material is dry, you have the reward to look forward to.
  6. Take breaks: Take a break every two hours. You mental energy will begin to decline after a long period of study. So every two hours or so, take a ten minute break. Walk around, eat a light snack, or just stare at the wall to relax your mind.

Concentrating is the first step to learning anything new. It only makes sense that if you improve your concentration, your memory will improve also.

How an expert can help?
If you want to get individualized expert opinion about how you are studying currently and what ways you can improve; you can always consult the expert. Once he/she knows what your current study methods are, they will be able to give you specific tips to improve upon. Most likely once you incorporate those tips you will be spending less time studying and your grades will improve. That's what is studying smarter and not harder means!!

2858 people found this helpful

My wife is suffering from thyroid ,so she get depressed so many times. For that reason she doesn't have interest in sex. I had forgotten when we done sex. Even tho I get near her she doesn't show interest in me. How to provoke her? How can she be stable in life. she is only 29 years. We are not enjoying our married, even not enjoy sex. What is the medicine for this problem? How can I bring interest of sex in her?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
My wife is suffering from thyroid ,so she get depressed so many times. For that reason she doesn't have interest in s...
lybrate-user the problem you have described is ot something which can be simply solved by some medicine. I do hope that she is taking her thyroid medicine. If not, that is the first thing to start with. For related depression and lack of libido you may consult a psychologist which will help you learn some tools which can help your wife. Basically there are some physiological changes which are leading to chemical changes and she is feeling low. So under the guidance of a professional you both can start understanding what is happening and supporting each other in the journey. Should you have any other specific question or concern feel free to contact me. It is difficult to give you more specific answer without knowing detail history. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
3 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Hello, I am married, I am fully depressing alone always nobody talk with me since from the year only my cell phone is my life. Why this life is too long? Always I felt like that I can't get any solution bcz around me r all fake people's I can't come out from them. What to do.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Hello, I am married, I am fully depressing alone always nobody talk with me since from the year only my cell phone is...
You are young and have a long life ahead of you. I would suggest to take positive steps towards your well being to lead a happy and fulfilling life. In any given situation we have two choice 1. Accept the situation as it is and feel bad about our self and do nothing to change it. 2. Accept the situation as it is and try and figure out what you could do so that you get the result you want and deserve. I would suggest you to take charge of your life. Think how would you like to feel when you are 40 years. What would make you proud of yourself. What will give you sense of contribution and accomplishment? You may try following things to help yourself come out of your current state of mind. When our mind is hooked into either past or worried about future it is normal to have lot of negative thoughts and in turn feeling low. The good news is that our mind could be wired to switch back to positive thinking and resilience building. We have immense potential within us and we could tap into those one step at a time, one day at a time. When things does not happen as we wish or people do not behave as we expect that is when out of disappointment, frustration, loneliness, anger, sadness. Etc we react and our mind starts thinking negative thoughts. Changing this pattern of responding to stressful situation requires both persistence and patience. I would suggest few things below. If you are unable to follow these things suggested here you should consult a psychologist. Also you will only be able to work on this out of love and kindness towards you. Strong motivation will go a long way. Writing a statement about how would you want to respond in a similar situation and how will your life and your happiness will change if you do learn to manage your stress and how to respond to it. Once that is clear. Try following things to learn relaxation response which leads to better coping mechanism on a daily basis. To begin with doing guided progressive muscular relaxation before sleeping will help you relax. You could google and download an audio file. I would also suggest you to take a multiple small break to take 3 nice and deep breath while keeping your eyes closed. You could do this while sitting or standing or while even walking or climbing stairs (keep your eyes open in that case). When you take a nice and deep break there is actual physiological change in your body. This will help you to activate parasympathetic nervous system which promotes relaxation and helps you calm down and think more clearly. This will also actually improve your performance in your work. Along with this exercise is one of the best way to relive stress and stay fit. Engage in any kind of physical activity at least 4 times a week. This also helps in stress reduction. Along with this some relaxation exercises as well as engaging in joyful activities such as music, singing, dancing, reading, being in nature, gardening, talking with friends or anything which you enjoy will help reducing stress and rejuvenation of your mind and body. Have good routine for sleep and eating. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white floor in your diet as much as you could. Along with this also increase consumption of raw vegetables in the form of salad in both the meals of your day. Let me. If you are not able to take charge and bring yourself up then I would recommend consulting a psychologist and work with him or her for few months and learn how to manage your stress and resolve the current issue as well. Know if you need any further help. Feel free to contact me if you think I can help you in any way, Hope this help wishing you very best.
10 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Dear doctor am 27 year male and am working in private sector and am suffering from mental illness which I noticed myself I think lot about past and future after then I get nervous and depression from this I am facing lack of confidence and I couldn't do any work with confidently now a days I am getting angry from silly unusual things and I will get panic when doing work. May be I am suffering from some mental disorders from this I am getting mentally weaker day by day and am going to get Marry soon but I am worrying how should I lead my Life happily and confidently in my career and personal life please suggest some helpful things. And please suggest how to overcome stress and how to get rid out from depression and anxiety.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Dear doctor am 27 year male and am working in private sector and am suffering from mental illness which I noticed mys...
Stress is the major by product of our current modern life style. There is so much competition and comparison. Int his situation it is difficult at times to cope up and work towards bringing the best out in us. Instead of self diagnosing yourself and thinking worst, I would suggest you to try following things and see if you can bring yourself back to more balanced and growth promoting state. If need be you may even talk to a psychologist so that he/she can provide you better understanding about your state. You may try following things to help yourself come out of this stressful situation. When our mind is hooked into either past or worried about future it is normal to have lot of negative thoughts and in turn feeling low. The good news is that our mind could be wired to switch back to positive thinking and resilience building. We have immense potential within us and we could tap into those one step at a time, one day at a time. When things does not happen as we wish or people do not behave as we expect that is when out of disappointment, frustration, loneliness, anger, sadness. Etc we react and our mind starts thinking negative thoughts. Changing this pattern of responding to stressful situation requires both persistence and patience. I would suggest few things below. If you are unable to follow these things suggested here you should consult a psychologist. Also you will only be able to work on this out of love and kindness towards you. Strong motivation will go a long way. Writing a statement about how would you want to respond in a similar situation and how will your life and your happiness will change if you do learn to manage your stress and how to respond to it. Once that is clear. Try following things to learn relaxation response which leads to better coping mechanism on a daily basis. To begin with doing guided progressive muscular relaxation before sleeping will help you relax. You could google and download an audio file. I would also suggest you to take a multiple small break to take 3 nice and deep breath while keeping your eyes closed. You could do this while sitting or standing or while even walking or climbing stairs (keep your eyes open in that case). When you take a nice and deep break there is actual physiological change in your body. This will help you to activate parasympathetic nervous system which promotes relaxation and helps you calm down and think more clearly. This will also actually improve your performance in your work. Along with this exercise is one of the best way to relive stress and stay fit. Engage in any kind of physical activity at least 4 times a week. This also helps in stress reduction. Along with this some relaxation exercises as well as engaging in joyful activities such as music, singing, dancing, reading, being in nature, gardening, talking with friends or anything which you enjoy will help reducing stress and rejuvenation of your mind and body. Have good routine for sleep and eating. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white floor in your diet as much as you could. Along with this also increase consumption of raw vegetables in the form of salad in both the meals of your day. Let me. If you are not able to take charge and bring yourself up then I would recommend consulting a psychologist and work with him or her for few months and learn how to manage your stress and resolve the current issue as well. Know if you need any further help.
3 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am suffering from depression. Day to day my life is becoming dangerous. So many negative thoughts are coming to my mind like I can not do any thing and so on please help me and suggest.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I am suffering from depression. Day to day my life is becoming dangerous. So many negative thoughts are coming to my ...
When our mind is hooked into either past or worried about future it is normal to have lot of negative thoughts and in turn feeling low. The good news is that our mind could be wired to switch back to positive thinking and resilience building. We have immense potential within us and we could tap into those one step at a time, one day at a time. When things does not happen as we wish or people do not behave as we expect that is when out of disappointment, frustration, loneliness, anger, sadness. Etc we react and our mind starts thinking negative thoughts. Changing this pattern of responding to stressful situation requires both persistence and patience. I would suggest few things below. If you are unable to follow these things suggested here you should consult a psychologist. Also you will only be able to work on this out of love and kindness towards you. Strong motivation will go a long way. Writing a statement about how would you want to respond in a similar situation and how will your life and your happiness will change if you do learn to manage your stress and how to respond to it. Once that is clear. Try following things to learn relaxation response which leads to better coping mechanism on a daily basis. To begin with doing guided progressive muscular relaxation before sleeping will help you relax. You could google and download an audio file. I would also suggest you to take a multiple small break to take 3 nice and deep breath while keeping your eyes closed. You could do this while sitting or standing or while even walking or climbing stairs (keep your eyes open in that case). When you take a nice and deep break there is actual physiological change in your body. This will help you to activate parasympathetic nervous system which promotes relaxation and helps you calm down and think more clearly. This will also actually improve your performance in your work. Along with this exercise is one of the best way to relive stress and stay fit. Engage in any kind of physical activity at least 4 times a week. This also helps in stress reduction. Along with this some relaxation exercises as well as engaging in joyful activities such as music, singing, dancing, reading, being in nature, gardening, talking with friends or anything which you enjoy will help reducing stress and rejuvenation of your mind and body. Have good routine for sleep and eating. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white floor in your diet as much as you could. Along with this also increase consumption of raw vegetables in the form of salad in both the meals of your day. Let me. If you are not able to take charge and bring yourself up then I would recommend consulting a psychologist and work with him or her for few months and learn how to manage your stress and resolve the current issue as well.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Mujhe bhi aisa lagta he ki mai depression me hu to ab muje iske liye kya karna padega ya kuch medicine ki jarurat he kya.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Mujhe bhi aisa lagta he ki mai depression me hu to ab muje iske liye kya karna padega ya kuch medicine ki jarurat he ...
It is never advisable to take medicine right away for feeling low without consulting psychologist or psychiatrist. Many times these feeling low. Is part of life's normal ups and downs and we all have ability to bounce back. So I would suggest you to talk to a professional adviser first. If yoh would like to try something on your own then exercise is the number one mood lifter. Physical activity at least 30 minutes a day will help you change the chemical imbalance and lift your mood. You may also try simple meditation or chanting etc for 5 minutes daily. Engaging yourself in music either playing music or listening to music, reading a good book, gardening, coloring those adult color books etc will also help. Do let me know if I can help you in any way. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
2 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Rekindling the Love and Friendship in Your Marriage

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Rekindling the Love and Friendship in Your Marriage

Remember those times when you just got engaged or were dating or even early months after marriage. How curious, open and enthusiastic you were about knowing every little detail about your partner. You would keep a tab on likes and dislikes, favorite restaurant and favorite food. You would absorb everything he or she would share like a sponge and hungry for more. Those were fun and exciting times. You seemed to be in a flow, it was effortless.

What happened to your dream of happily ever after. And, even important question is what have you been doing to achieve your dream of happily ever after. You might be thinking we are staying together, have known each other in a more realistic way, the 'honeymoon effect' and the initial romance has to fade away. That is the way of life. We are perhaps now closer to reality then we were in those months.

We need to compromise and adjust, isn't that the demand of each marriage. What if I ask you to think and compare your happily ever after with your dream career. Would you be able to achieve the same with this low energy approach of adjusting and compromising. No, rather you need to pursue it with lot of passion. You need to think about different strategies and grow continuously.

You would do anything and everything to make it happen. What will happen if your relationship is as important as your life's work. It is this shift and this desire that makes any relationship successful and make love last forever.

What is the secret?
The secret is to show up every day for your relationship to make it thrive. As you wake up each day commit to each other. Instead of taking each other and your relationship granted, give it your attention, time and efforts it deserves. Respect, accept and acknowledge your partner in little ways. Show love and support. It.s not just a surprise birthday party or grand annual vacation that takes you towards successful marriage; it is those little things each day that you do to show that you care! Each marriage is unique. Each marriage has its own struggles, challenges, successes etc. In my practice I help clients understand that it isn't healthy to compare their relationship with other relationships for a lot of reasons including you don't really know what goes on behind closed doors. What works for one marriage, may not work for another.

Focus on your marriage and identify your unique strengths and challenges. Then get busy creating a stronger foundation. These are the few tips that will help you  get started:

  1. Listen to understand and accept, not to judge or blame.
  2. Turn towards each other, not against each other (you are a team not competitors!)
  3. Create daily rituals to connect and share about your day.
  4. Increase your emotional bank account, more positivity through small daily actions than negative feedback.
  5. Appreciate and acknowledge each other, not taking each other for granted.
  6. Support each other.s dream . not ridiculing them.
  7. Create your shared dream and meaning in life. (What do you stand for as a family. What do you want to achieve and how can you each contribute in this bigger picture).

Good news is that if willing, you can learn how to utilize your unique strengths as a couple to increase connection, love and intimacy in your marriage. In a 'Marriage Enrichment Program', you can also learn about utilizing conflict as a stepping stone to know each other at deeper level and feel understood and loved.

3989 people found this helpful

I lost my grandma thi year in May she died due to heart attack she had sugar too but her death was sudden she was normal and all of a sudden this happen . From then onwards I miss her every sec and feels like I will die too . I feel that all of sudden I am feeling suffocation and have mild difficulty in breathing then it feels that something is happening to my heart. It feels that I would have a heart attack too . I start crying then after 20-30 mins this situation goes and it becomes normal again . But it happens to me everyday . I am so depressed about it What it could be a disease or a psychological issue?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I lost my grandma thi year in May she died due to heart attack she had sugar too but her death was sudden she was nor...
Loosing someone close is very tough emotionally. What you are feeling is a grief. I am sure you must be very close to her. I would suggest you to seek help. Sometimes persistent grief leads to depression as it causes constant stress response in your body. You may want to see a psychologist or a counselor for few weeks to break the thought pattern that you are having right now and begin a positive pattern. I would also advice to try following things as you are young and stress is present in our daily life these days. Building resilience will go a long way and help you cope up with many life circumstances. Building your resilience will also help you manage your stress and help in depression. Try following things to learn relaxation response which leads to better coping mechanism on a daily basis. To begin with doing guided progressive muscular relaxation before sleeping will help you relax. You could google and download an audio file. I would also suggest you to take a multiple small break to take 3 nice and deep breath while keeping your eyes closed. You could do this while sitting or standing or while even walking or climbing stairs (keep your eyes open in that case). When you take a nice and deep break there is actual physiological change in your body. This will help you to activate parasympathetic nervous system which promotes relaxation and helps you calm down and think more clearly. This will also actually improve your performance in your work. Along with this exercise is one of the best way to relive stress and stay fit. Engage in any kind of physical activity at least 4 times a week. This also helps in stress reduction. Along with this some relaxation exercises as well as engaging in joyful activities such as music, singing, dancing, reading, being in nature, gardening, talking with friends or anything which you enjoy will help reducing stress and rejuvenation of your mind and body. Have good routine for sleep and eating. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white floor in your diet as much as you could. Along with this also increase consumption of raw vegetables in the form of salad in both the meals of your day. Hope this helps. Wishing you very best.
2 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Hello. I am 23 year old male. I was mentally harassed by my elder cousin from 2006 to 2013. I told my problem to my parents but they did not pay any heed to it. So my mental harassment continued on. In 2013 my attendance fell low due to lack of transportation. My attendance fell short. I again told my parents but they did not pay any heed to that. As a result of that I was made to rewrite my exams as of no fault of mine. I had to travel to 15 Km of distance by my own even in jaundice. But no one bothered to ask my problem. I wished to fill up my Engineering Entrance Exams forms but my parents still did not supported me. I was mentally harassed by my own relatives and my parents. As a result of constant strain my body weight fell from 68 Kg to 55 Kg. No one supported me when I was in a need. Please prescribe me some medicines to get my physical health back on track. I was constantly kicked up in my life and was mentally harassed too. I hope that your medicines will help me to attain physical and mental health too. Thanking you for being an patient listener.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Hello. I am 23 year old male. I was mentally harassed by my elder cousin from 2006 to 2013. I told my problem to my p...
You have been traumatized as a teenager. Right now you are in a victim mode. That is not helping you take charge of your own life. Unfortunately we can not change anyone around us. What we could do is change ourself and how we respond to the situation. You have a long life ahead of you. I would strongly suggest you to seek help. Find a counselor or psychologist near you whom you could trust and feel comfortable with. Talking on a regular basis will help you shift your focus and energy and also help you learn ways to deal with the stress and situation better. You will also be able to take charge of your own life and decide what is right and wrong and what could help you progress further. If you are interested in working online fee free to contact me. Medicines does not hold solutions for all problems in life. Sometimes we need to change the way look at life and be a part of solution instead of feeling helpless and hopeless. I do hope for the best outcome for you, wishing you best,
3 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Dear doctor, I'm underweight, y age is 28 , weight- 48 kg, height- 169 cm. I underwent some medical tests. In this tests, my HDL cholesterol is 36 mg | dl and LDL cholesterol is 112 mg | dl . Because of anxiety, I'm losing my weight a lot. My question is whether anxiety cause many heart diseases? And which of those cholesterols will be reduced because of chronic anxiety and confusion? Is it very harmful to human health?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Dear doctor, I'm underweight, y age is 28 , weight- 48 kg, height- 169 cm. I underwent some medical tests. In this te...
Chronic stress is associated with most chronic diseases. You have mentitled about your anxiety. I am not sure if you are doing any kind of exercise on a regular basis. Regular exercise will surely help you wit anxiety. If need be you may consult a counselor and learn few techniques to manage and overcome anxiety. This will enhance your quality of life. Also your hdl cholesterol which is a good cholesterol is relatively low. May be because you don't exercise regularly. You are quiet young. Start regular exercise Join gym or go for run or even sport like football or tennis badminton would be good. Exercise will help you wit anxiety. It will increase your good cholesterol. It will also increase your overall energy level. Which will help.you produce better result. Only good things will come out of it. Remember that our best friend and worst enemy is our own mind. If you keep worrying it will effect you adversely. And instead of worrying if you take positive actions yoh will have positive outcome. Hope this helps Wishing you very best
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Dear doctor. This is for my fiance. He is 25 years old. 6 ft ,84 kgs . He recently faced weight loss and frequent urine. So we went for a master check. There we found that his glucose level is high. Fast blood level was 340 and after food was 469. We are about to meet a doctor. He already started his diet and exercise. My question is will he able to be normal back? I mean he is following diet now. Is it possible to bring tat glucose level normal? I mean heard that once sugar comes we have no other go than taking medication regularly. Is that possible to bring back him normal. He is physically mentally so fed up because of this in early stage. please doctor. please clear my doubt. Thank you so much for reading my post and helping me.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Dear doctor. This is for my fiance. He is 25 years old. 6 ft ,84 kgs . He recently faced weight loss and frequent uri...
He is young. Though it is not uncommon these days for young people to get diabetes. The latest science have ways to reverse the disease. Not many people in india are aware about the same. It does include life style changes and learning new ways to lead your life. As I do know a medical doctor who is helping patients reverse diabetes. It is not appropriate to disclose details in this forum. Please contact me for more details. Wishing you both very best wishing you very best.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Dear doctors pls help me. I'm 28 , weight-50, height- 168 cm. Since hearing a few days ago the news that my friend's father died of heart attack, I'm becoming very confused and anxious whether I would get the same in future even though I'm underweight. Whenever I put on a little weight, I'm becoming very anxious and in the consequence, my weight is reduced gradually. My mind forces me to get anxious and confused day in and day out , only then you won't gain weight and heart problem. So pls tell me whether we should not lose our weight with anxiety. If an underweight or overweight person's weight is reduced with stress or anxiety, what will happen to his health? Which one of HDL and LDL will be reduced? And what's the danger thereof to one's health? If you tell me, definitely I will come out of it. Pls help me doctor. I have pinned all my hopes only on u.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Dear doctors pls help me. I'm 28 , weight-50, height- 168 cm. Since hearing a few days ago the news that my friend's ...
Dear friend because of the sudden death of your friend's father you are in shock and worried. Please understand that you are not related to them in blood relation so you don't have the same genes. You are just worried and anxious. This shall pass in few days and you will return to your normal self. Chronic diseases like heart disease blood pressure diabetes etc are life style diseases. This is a good opportunity that you resolve few things in favor of your health. 1. Stress is one of the major factors for the onset of chronic diseases. Regular exercise helps not only build your fitness and immunity it also helps you manage your stress. Do something on a daily basis. Gym running or any kind of sports is good. 2. Eat healthy food. Incorporate salad and fruits along with yogurt etc. In your daily food. 3. Sugar is very harmful for your overall health. Reduce its consumption as much as possible. There are so many resources and information available on tip of your finger. Use it in your favor. Read and explore what are the ways you could enhance your wellbeing. Over all wellness includes physical mental spiritual as well as emotional health. All these things will help you stay healthy and fit. You do not need to worry excessively about bad things that might happen. When you are worried you are engaging your energy and focus on some thing which is not productive. You have choice. Choose wisely. Choose to take charge of your life. You are the author of your own life story. Decide what kind of health and future you would want to have. And take action today to make it happen. If you need any further help regarding any of the thing I said here feel free to contact me. Wishing you very best.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am 32 years working women .joint family blessed with 3 years son. Born after 3 miscarriages. .but not happy with life. MIL is very cruel .relationship with husband is diluting now.what can i do?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
It is not unusual in our society to not have strong marital relationship and most people do not focus on improving the same. Any relationship needs both focus and work of love to continue to be good. Marriage is no exception. There could be many reason like having a child or you also are working and busy wit house hold work. On top of this your in law issues. All these things drains you and you don't have time and energy left for your marriage. Similar thing cloud be possible for your husband. Right now you seem to be under lot of stress. If you could take few days off and go on a little holiday trip with your husband and son. Please do that. You both need to talk and understand each other and decide what is important for you. You may consult a marriage counselor who can help you work on I creasing positivity inna relationship and on an individual level. I understand that your son needs your focus attention ans love at the same time your relationship to. When I am saying you both need to talk. Inam not saying just blame each other and fight. I really want you to listen to each other deeply a d understand and make the bond of friendship stronger. My speciality is marriage and parenting. If you need any further advice or concrete guideline to be happy and content feel free to contact me. Wishing you very best.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

My Daughter 2.5 years old has very bad cough with Vomiting. Given all kinds of syrup. Nothing help her out. Very tensed. Do not know what to do. Please suggest me something.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
My Daughter 2.5 years old has very bad cough with Vomiting. Given all kinds of syrup. Nothing help her out. Very tens...
I understand your worry and concern as a parent. Mostly her vomiting is due to cough. I do hope you have consulted pediatrician ans giving her medicine as per recommendation. Other than that. Give her more liquid diet instead of solid. Many times food particles could cause vomiting. Also as she is very young. As a parents it is important that you stay calm and engage her in some fun activity. Laugh with her tell her stories or what ever she enjoys. Positive and calmer environment around her will help her stay calmer and help in healing process. Support each other as a couple to reduce your anxiety and do everything that needs to be done medically. What ever virus or bacteria that is causing her cough will take. Its course before she will start recovering. Make sure she is hydrated properly. Even one spoon water and electrolyte at a time will also help. Hope she feels better soon. Wishing you all very best.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I have suffered from depression for 2 years and sometimes I feel suicidal because im not pleased with myself or think I do not make others around me happy, I really do not want to see a professional about this but what can help?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I have suffered from depression for 2 years and sometimes I feel suicidal because im not pleased with myself or think...
It's good that you are ready to seek help. Consult psychologist / counselor they will be able to help. You after taking a detail history. You may be able to learn few tools. That can help you come out of these. Low feeling ga and self doubts you have. Wishing you very best feel. Free. To. Contact. Me if you need any for the information.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback
View All Feed